All my 4month old does is whine and cry. Help!!

Melissa - posted on 03/26/2015 ( 11 moms have responded )

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I have a 4 months old daughter named Pepper and since the day she was born she whines and screams bloody murder she hates playing with toys for more than five minutes sometimes sooner hates her swing hates to be held and I have been praying wondering what I ever did in my life for this hate I feel from my daughter nothing I do seems to help

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Jodi - posted on 03/26/2015

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Wow, Melissa, the only one being rude here was you. Right there when you responded to Penny. That was really rude to a woman who was genuinely trying to help. Just because it wasn't really what you were after doesn't mean it wasn't genuine help. And then personally attacking people?

With regard to your baby being held, when you hold her, are you playing with her? Talking to her?

Expecting her to play with toys for any length of time is a big ask.

I'm assuming she doesn't cry ALL the time, what is it that is going right when she ISN'T crying? Have a look at the times she IS content and see what is different.

Also, just remember your baby will pick up on your moods too, so if you are tense and upset, this could also trigger your baby.

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Sarah - posted on 03/27/2015

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Melissa, have you tried a swing, or a exersaucer? If she can sit well, she can probably hold herself up for a short time in a saucer or a johnny-jump-up. Does she like to be on the floor on her belly? is she getting enough sleep and enough to eat?

Erin - posted on 03/27/2015

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My 4 month old was like that too. It is a phase and hopefully she will grow out of it. My daughter also was colicky and just cried. For absolutely no reason. It wore on my nerves and drove me nuts because you're exhausted from just trying everything. Some things I tried that helped but did not completely solve the problem are wearing her in a sling or using gas drops or tummy calming drops? She may have gas and is just uncomfortable. Things will get better and know that you are not alone in your baby behaving like this. Hugs

Melissa - posted on 03/26/2015

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But I did see you doing similar things to other ladies after I looked thru some of your other very helpful comments.. You need a hobby like maybe Facebook or something so you can be rude to people on there not on here this place is a joke but thanks Dr Phil for your expert advice and guess what honey I lost 30lbs no problem with exercise and "portion" control hows that for immature

Melissa - posted on 03/26/2015

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OK thank you but still not sure why you were so rude when you could have just said that. I just feel like you guys expect me to know everything and if I did I wouldn't be asking for advice. Sorry penny if you thought I was being immature just sounded like you guys think I'm dumb with all these questions. And then you making it seem like I'm lying about holding her

Sarah - posted on 03/26/2015

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She was giving you tips. The baby is only 4 mos. old. It is not going to have an attention span of more then a few minutes. Baby's eye sight has also not fully developed yet, so how far she can see and what she can see is limited. Babies tend to take ALL your time at that age. There is not much you will get done as you will be tending to them. ....that is normal. That is also what Penny was saying. Until they become older this is normal and what little babies do.

Melissa - posted on 03/26/2015

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I do hold her and she hates it but I still hold her why is that immature do you think I'm trying to make problems here or something. I just thought maybe someone had a good idea or two that I didn't know of. And if you can't help me then please don't bother by making me seem like I'm doing something wrong here. I don't have time for this type of badgering

Melissa - posted on 03/26/2015

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Why is that immature? I'm trying to get tips I felt like it was more of a lecture than help I'm not trying to be rude why would you think that I'm 28 and do not know what to do about my situation and am looking for advice that's all. I was only explaining the situation and how i felt.

Sarah - posted on 03/26/2015

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Wow Melissa you sound really immature. Either you are just trying to cause issues or you are really young and don't know much about infant development. You started in your original post that she hates to be held, but in your last post you state how you hold her so much.

Melissa - posted on 03/26/2015

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She will be 5 months old in eight days and sits up all by herself..I have some girl friends that have a son and daughter and they play with toys and she does but not like them and I am holding her so much and playing with her so much my house is wrecked.. I am a first time mom but my instincts say something else is up. But thanks. My mom said I was a lot like this guess I'll figure it out for myself. I guess I was going to get support from other mom's and tips more than a lecture

Penny - posted on 03/26/2015

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First time mom? We all came through it.
Your DD is only 4 months old. How long are you expecting her to stay along? She is just at a stage needs more security feeling from mom. She needs you around even not holding her. She is knowing nothing about her own body. How can she enjoy playing the toys. Until 4+ month, when she get to know her fingers and can suck them, she can develop more independently.

Babies are growing fast than you think. :)

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