allowing your teen to sleepover at her/his girlfriend/boyfriends house ?

Jenna - posted on 07/21/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )




so the question is pretty straight forward, is and when is it ok to be allowing your teen to sleepover at there boyfriend/ girlfriends house . as my 14 year old daughter asked me recently if she could spend the night at her boyfriends house and if he could spend the night here . i am a lost of what to say my oldest two 3 did not / do not dare to ask to spend the night at there boyfriends house or have them spend the night here. there are allowed over though the day and the bedroom door must be open ( my rules ) i do not know what is allowed over at there boyfriends house . so my question is what do i say to her ?
thank you


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/22/2014




Well, in my home, a steady gf was not an option at 14, nor at 15. At 16 a steady is an option, but an overnight? Common sense says absolutely not.

Why on earth would the child even think it was an option?

Furthermore, as you have older children who have already handled this appropriately, why would you not know how to respond to her?

Obviously it's not a good idea, not even a well thought out request. What do YOU think your answer should be?

If your 14 YO is walking all over you (refusing to speak about certain subjects, screaming fits, etc) there's a bigger issue than her wanting to sleep over with her're looking at being a grandmother sooner than you'd like if you allow her to keep this up.

Jenna - posted on 07/22/2014




thank you , i did ask her why she wanted the sleepover and she just gave me I do not know , she has told me that she is having sex before but everything i talk to her about it she closes me down or gives me basic blunt answers . we have talked about protection and she insures me they use it . certain subjects are very touchey and if i push the subject she screams at me and then refuse to talk to me . thank you for your advice

Gena - posted on 07/22/2014




I personaly think 14 is too young for sleep overs by boyfriend/girlfriend. I would tell her that she is not aloud to because she is to young. I would also ask her why she wants to sleep over. Are they having sex? Then i would definatly talk to her about protection,not only because of possible pregnancy but also because of stds.

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