Almost 18 year old son, skipping school, pot, attitude

Mel - posted on 04/15/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Hi, my son is almost 18. Life at home with him is unbearable. He is skipping school, barely scraping through his courses. Has been caught smoking pot a few times and I think he is doing it again. If I ask him about his work he just becomes so aggressive and I just don't know what to do. I have been to the school, offered him Councelling I'm thinking that I should go before I have a breakdown. I am beside myself with worry. He says he is leaving ove the summer but he has no ways or means of taking care of himself . Any suggestions ?

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/15/2016

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well, I'd suggest you do. Even the threat of a random test has kept my kid clean.

Mel - posted on 04/15/2016

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I have not tried the drug test yet. Hasn't need to he's been caught with it at least 3 times. I have told him if I catch him again he is out

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/15/2016

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CONSEQUENCES!

My 18 YO tried the same thing. I now drug test him randomly. If he wants to live in my home, he must adhere to rules, and pay rent.

Its working great. He'll graduate in a month. If he wants to move, he'll move.

Sarah - posted on 04/15/2016

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Have you had a drug screen done? You still are in charge of his health and maybe that is the problem?

Mel - posted on 04/15/2016

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He has never been this bad before, behavior got much worse after the holidays at Christmas.
You are right but it's so hard to watch your child fail. I have tried everything I can think of to no avail.
Thanks :)

Sarah - posted on 04/15/2016

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It is a bit late to try to fix this mess now, once 18 you have little leverage if any to control his behavior. Maybe let his go and fall of his face, then when he needs help; only offer it with the agreement that he follow an adult living contract in your home.

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