Almost 3 year old spitting her drinks out?

Carolyn - posted on 11/06/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My almost 3 year old daughter has started spitting her drinks out everywhere. I am at my whits end! She waits until my back is turned then takes a drink in her mouth then spits it out on the couch, her sister, the remote controls. clothes, the floor...everywhere and anywhere. I mean, seriously, I was doing the dishes and came around the corner to find my couch totally saturated and the wetness covering the remote control, her tablet, and anything else within reach. It is not only gross but its just so frustrating! What can I do to stop it? I've tried time outs, explaining explicitly WHY she is getting a time out, Telling her how "gross" and how it's not "OK" to do it, making her clean it up, forcing her to acknowledge her behavior, totally limiting/rationing her access to drinks. What else can I do? I am not opposed to spanking but I would rather avoid it as I don't want to raise my children that way if I can help it. What should I do? Dump a glass of whatever it is she's spitting out over her head? lol. I am seriously not sure what to do anymore so any help would be greatly appreciated! What else can I try to get her past this stage because, well, cleaning up her spills 3 of more times a day is getting really old really fast. Also, my younger daughter (19 months old) is starting to mimic all behaviors my almost 3 year old does so I need to get this stage to pass quickly before my younger daughter starts it too. So, please, HELP!!! lol

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Holly - posted on 11/06/2012

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drinks should stay at the table... if they get up, take the drink away... do not allow her to walk around with cups... if she gets up, take it away. if she cries, tell her to sit back down. do not leave her unattended with the cup. sit with her until she is done. if you are cooking, or busy, tell her she will have to wait, if she asks why, tell her it is because she spits her drink out.

Ariana - posted on 11/06/2012

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I would first start by only giving her water for a week or two. I would tell her exactly why also. If she wants juice/milk etc tell her that, no, you can only have water right now because you keep spitting your drinks out and I don't want juice/milk on the ground/my things.



I would also only give her drinks at certain times or while she's sitting or something. Don't let her go around with a drink unsupervised. So if she wants some water tell her she can have it but she needs to sit down near you and drink it. If she wants to get up and play or you have to go somewhere tell her drinks all done now.



Oh and if she does go ahead and spits the water automatically take it away and get her to clean it up. She's old enough to clean the spill up by herself (maybe with some assistance for getting napkins or something).



Tell her once you see her behaving well with water you'll start letting her have juice and things again.



My son did the same thing at about 2 1/2 and I just took the cup away and started making him sit down near me whenever he had a drink. If he wants to get up he was all done his drink, if he started trying to spit it drink got taken away and no drink for a while.



I would also try not to bring a lot of attention to this, she might just be doing it to bother you. I don't know if it's true but if it is giving her time-outs or talking about it with her a lot will just make her do it more.



Only give her water for a while (so if she does end up spitting it it's not as big a deal), have her clean up her own spills, and make it so she can only have drinks while sitting down near you. Spitting means no juice and no drink. Only start giving her juice once she's able to not spit water at you for at least a couple days if not a week. Once she gets juice tell her she can only have juice as long as she keeps it in her mouth.

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Carolyn - posted on 11/07/2012

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Neither of my daughters have any trouble being limited where they can drink their water. I guess I'm just concerned my girls won't drink enough to stay hydrated since they are so active they rarely sit down long enough to drink much. Maybe the longer and stricter I am on it it may sink in? I admit, I was doing that but would slip from time to time (thus the spitting everywhere).

Carolyn - posted on 11/07/2012

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Thank you. I have tried only giving her water but wasn't sure how long to do that. I guess I will extend it until she can control her desire to spit it out.



I think you might be right, though, and she is doing it for attention. Although I don't think she is seeking time-out attention but I have seen her lately start blaming her sister for everything. And this is just one more thing she tries to blame her sister for even when I catch her in the act.



Its really funny because I have an older child (my son is 21 years old) who never did this so I had no idea kids did this past the baby stage my younger daughter went through a few months ago. I just hope my younger daughter doesn't start spitting again considering she is into copying everything her older sister does. So far so good on that one, though.



Thanks for the advice.

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