Almost 4 year old lying all the time and not listening - how do you handle it?

Bethany - posted on 03/05/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




I have a 3 yr 9 mo old son. He continually lies about his behavior, even when we watch him do the action he lies about. When he blames his older sister and she gets in trouble for it, he seems to enjoy it, not feel bad about it. We use time out and it doesn't seem to make a difference. We have removed all but his bed and dresser from his room, and that seems to not make a difference. We have bagged up toys and "thrown them out" (put in the basement) so he can earn them back when he does not clean them up or misuses them (turns them into weapons to hit his sister, etc.) and he doesn't seem to care much past the first few minutes. He has destroyed valuable items in the house (for example, he has poured contact solution all over 2 different expensive clocks on my nightstand during naptime when he has snuck into my bedroom while I was in the bathroom, doing laundry, etc.) and has no remorse, even when I am crying my eyes out because of it. We have taken away opportunities to go places with the family and that doesn't seem to matter - sometimes he even tells us he doesn't care because he wants to stay home. It is infuriating! I am home with him 85% of the time since my husband works many long hours, and am at my wits end! I do get a break Mon-Thurs while he goes to school for a few hours in the morning, but it doesn't seem to be enough. He appears to have minimal issues at school or with anyone else - just seems to be us at home. Any thoughts?


Katherine - posted on 03/09/2012




Why don't you do a rewards chart? It's best to reward the GOOD behavior rather than focus on the bad.

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