Alright, Pacifier Vs. Thumb.

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Stephanie - posted on 03/26/2009

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Most kids will stop sucking their thumb when they are ready no matter what we do to stop them.

Angela - posted on 03/25/2009

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Either one is not going to have long term negative effects on the baby.  Each baby is different and I know when I had my daughter I just let her choose which one she wanted.  She sucked her thumb occasionally but she liked the pacifer more.  She just enjoyed being able to suck on something and it kept her busy.  I didn't give it to her all the time but when I could see she wanted soothe herself with that, I gave it to her.  When all of the paci's were lost around a year old, I just never bought more for her and she didn't even notice.  Of course, it differs from child to child but in the long run the baby will turn out just fine which ever one you choose.

Karen - posted on 03/22/2009

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You can take a pacifier away, not a thumb. I say pacifier. They can just get "broken" and have to go in the garbage.

Nichola - posted on 03/16/2009

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i have no idea which is better but i would be lost with out my sons paci and if you think about it you can take the pacifier away when you are ready to get rid of it and you cant take their thumb away

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Angela - posted on 02/02/2012

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my two sucked thier fingers when they were teething and I never made a big deal of it - and made sure no-one else brought attention to it either (sometimes surprisingly pretty hard!!) - when all the teeth came through the finger sucking stopped.. also I never got them addicted to finding comfort through sucking by giving them a pacifier so they self-soothe really well - of course number 3 might be a different kettle of fish! lol each to thier own - I didnt use pacifiers because it was better for my kids and who is anyone to pass judgement? as mum you're the one to deal with any consequences of decisions.. not the passerby or relative - they wont be dealing with crying and certainly not the orthodontic bill! lol

Tarcille - posted on 03/25/2009

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My daughter is six and we have only now stopped the thumb sucking!!!! It has taken a good year and a half of having to put sticky plasters on her thumb, index and middle fingers to get her to stop. Initially we put the plasters only on her thumbs. She started sucking her index finger. We put plasters on her index fingers, she started sucking her middle fingers........... It's now 5 days since we've stopped having to put the plasters on (after many previously failed attempts!)

So, my advice would be to go with the pacifier...... it's a lot easier to take away and a lot cheaper!!! :o)

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I say Paci, I have a seventh month old and she only takes it at night and most of the time she just want to hold it. Plus, I read where having a paci cuts down on sids. And you can throw it away. And a paci come in different shapes and sizes and since you can throw it away it doesn't do the damage that a thunb can do on the teeth!

Sandra - posted on 03/23/2009

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dummy as i call it would be best. i think it is easier to wean them of the dummy then to get them to stop sucking thier thumb. my cousin went onto sucking her thumb well into her adult years, i realise that might only be one preson but i think the dummy is a lot easier, you can just throw it away when your ready, or say the tooth fairy took it or something like that. my son kept busting them so for 2 days we didnt give him one and he cried, my partner bought him another one and he wouldnt take it. another son got sick and by the time we gave it back to him he kept borking and wouldnt take it. my daughter when she was 3yrs old, i threw dummy and bottle in the bin and told her she was a big girl now and when she asked for it wed say where is it and shed say in the bin and was fine with that cause she knew where it was. but every child is different but i feel dummy would be easiest when it comes to taking it of them...

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I've got to tell you that I could not imagine life without a paci!  My oldest had her paci all the time until she was about 3 years old so I was determined not to let my youngest have one.  Well about 6 hours after nursing ... I changed my mind!  However ... the older she got the more I would take it away.  for example, she could only have it when she slept or was in the car ... now at 3.5 she only has it the first 15 minutes of sleep then it falls out of her mouth and she's fine with out it.  My thought and what I've told her is that was "my paci" and soon we need to give it to a little baby.  We've been talking about it since she was 2.  That is the thing ... a paci can be taken away ... a thumb can not!  Best of Luck.

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My one year old sucks her thumb. Works great, don't have to worry about loosing a paci. The one dilemma I have found is when she gets a cold. Once her nose is all stuffed up she can't suck her thumb. She gets very upset and this causes sleepless nights for all.

Alisa - posted on 03/23/2009

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I would highly recommend the pacifier as long as you stay in charge and do not let them over do it. Now the thumb sucking thing, I have 2 teenagers that have sucked their thumbs from day one and never stopped. One finally stopped except at night and has done over 10,000.00 damage to her gums and teeth. She pulled with her thumb while sucking and pulled them out. The other one is 15 and still sucks it all the time. You can take the binky but not the thumb We have tried tabassco, nail biter stuff, hot pepper, and the obvious smacking the hand. It is a hard habbit to break.

Kelli - posted on 03/23/2009

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Pacifier! Thumb sucking can lead to dental issues later on in life. My firends little girl sucked her thumb and her palate it the exact shape of her thumb. She was so embarrased when she went to school because when she got nervous she would suck her thumb without even thinking about it. Her mom will still catch her at night sometimes and she is 10. Pacifiers you can get rid of, thumbs are not so easy!

Jennifer - posted on 03/23/2009

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I'm thinking - pacifier. For the simple reason that you can take it away... can't take away a thumb!!

Michele - posted on 03/23/2009

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my first child was sucking his thumb at my 20 scan. He is now 11 and still sucks his thumb. he is brainy and speaks well. My 2nd child had a dummy at 2 weeks. i took it away on her 2nd birthday. She is now 3 and is very clever and speaks well. My 3rd child started sucking his thumb at 2 days. he is now 22months and still sucking. Neither has done mine any harm. and yes you can take a dummy away but they can explore with it in their mouth. inquisitive children love to explore using all their senses - including their thumbs. I think whatever baby (and mum/dad) is happy with is best.

Bryony - posted on 03/23/2009

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I let my first 2 use a soother and took it away at 6 months, and always figured it was better to have something you can eventually take away. My third refused the soother and wanted only his thumb from day one! The up side is that he never loses it in the bed, and we can't forget it on a trip - and he never has trouble getting himself to sleep. The downside is I have no idea how to get him to quit and he's almost 3!

Cheri - posted on 03/23/2009

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With our children, my sister went with the thumb and I went with the pacifier.  Now at 8 years old, my niece is wearing braces. (and still sucking her thumb).  Remember, you can always break a pacifier habit, not the case with thumb sucking.

Cheri - posted on 03/23/2009

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With our children, my sister went with the thumb and I went with the pacifier.  Now at 8 years old, my niece is wearing braces. (and still sucking her thumb).  Remember, you can always break a pacifier habit, not the case with thumb sucking.

Stephanie - posted on 03/22/2009

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Quoting Nichola:



i have no idea which is better but i would be lost with out my sons paci and if you think about it you can take the pacifier away when you are ready to get rid of it and you cant take their thumb away





My thoughts exactly!

Sherri - posted on 03/22/2009

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There's issues with each. I have 2 boys---1st one sucked his thumb and we couldn't get him to stop until 1st grade. We used to put bandaids on his thumb to deter but he ended up taking them off.  The 2nd child I decided to try a pacifier.  Well I would have to get up 4-6x a night just to put the pacifier back in his mouth b/c when it falls out he would cry! Then they are always falling on the floor and getting germs.  It was wasy to take away though when it was time (around 15 months).   I vote for NEITHER! 

Ana - posted on 03/22/2009

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I would with the thumb, But just for the fact that a paci was used for my now 3 yr old son and we had the hardest time getting rid of that thing, But the bad part was he would drink his sippy and put the paci in the mouth and it had rotted his 2 front teeth, so now we have the fight of going to teh dentist.

Marcia - posted on 03/22/2009

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I'd go paci too! My first was on a paci and when I took it away he went to his thumb... he was five when he finally stopped due to being teased at school :(
My second child also had a paci ( she called it a sucky) and when she turned 2 it was time to go so the Sucky Fairy came and took it in the night, she knew it was the time and had left it out in the entry way all wrapped up in special paper she had colored (for a new baby to enjoy we told her lol) and in the morning there was a little treat for her. She didn't ask for it ever again.

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Definately Pacifier.... you can take a pacifier away but not a thumb.... result buck teeth! A ortho surgeon at my work put his 3 year olds thumb in a plaster cast to stop thumb sucking!!!... say no more.....

Jennifer - posted on 03/22/2009

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With my daughter she was done with her pacifier when she was 6 months old. My son however we had to start weening him off of it when he was almost 1. I am a firm believer in no pacifiers after the age of 1, and same with bottles, once they start getting teeth both are not good.

Christina - posted on 03/22/2009

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I'm not sure which is better.  Mycah has his paci most of the time but if he doesn't he just sticks his thumb in and continues to whine.  We thought the paci would be better because we could take it away but with Mycah I don't think either one is better because he has been trying to suck his thumb since he was born.  He's too smart for me!

Tracey - posted on 03/22/2009

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I have 3 children who all sucked their thumbs. I think there are pros and cons for both.
Although on one hand if they suck their thumb you dont have to worry about carrying a pacifier around with you and keeping it clean, worrying if you have lost it. It is much harder to stop them sucking their thumb. I have twins who are 14, one stopped when she was 7, but i still catch the other one still doing it in her sleep! My other daughter is 7 and hasnt done it since new years eve.

Lani - posted on 03/22/2009

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In the long run, I think the pacifier is better.  My older son loved his pacifier, and now my 18 month old does too.  I've always figured it was easier to take away when the time comes.  I know too many kids who are still sucking their thumb at 5-6 years old.  You can't take their thumb away!!!  Plus, thumb sucking often causes buck teeth and potential future dental issues from what I've read and seen...

Trina - posted on 03/22/2009

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I have twins that are now 1 year. One sucks the thumb one uses the pacifier. Luckily they only do it when they are tired. It is a good sign that it is time to go for a nap or time for bed. I see the pacifier used less and less, only when he is very tired. I do not know how we are going to break the thumb. As long as it is soothing the child I do not see the big problem with making you child comfortable!

Kassandra - posted on 03/22/2009

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pacifier is better for a baby as it can be easily sterilized and thrown away when the child is big enough. my son had a pacifier as a baby and when he was only 5months old he spat it out and didnt want it back. he hasnt sucked his thumb either. In saying that i have seen through a cousin that was never allowed a pacifier as a baby so she picked up sucking her thumb. When she was in school she used to get teased about it as she was still doing it in primary school as it was a comfort thing.

So i would say go the pacifier as there are less dramas when they are older to dispose of it. It may take a little time for the child to get over not having the dummy anymore but its a damn sight easier then trying to stop the child from sucking their thumb.

Fiona - posted on 03/22/2009

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I know two adult thumsuckers!! funny when tipsy ................. my sister pointed out that she doesnt smoke or eat chocolate she has her thumb she is 25 lol

Liz - posted on 03/22/2009

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i think you just have to go with what the baby wants, both my girls had dummy s but both gave them up really easy, but my eldest daughter now 28 went to her thumb and still uses it !!

Brigette - posted on 03/22/2009

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not sure what is better for baby - but for Mummy - I'd say a dummy is better - as you can't throw a thumb out (if you know what I mean)!!! In saying that, there's no getting up at 2am, because bubs can't find their dummy??!! I was a thumb sucker from day 1 - and still to this day 32 years later......when I am tired, pop my thumb in....teehee:) So maybe dummy??!!

Lisa - posted on 03/21/2009

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My brother in law sucked his pointer and middle fingers and still does at age 48!

Lisa - posted on 03/21/2009

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A pacifer because you can take it away when the child is ready. You can't take away the thumb. I have a grown up friend that lost her two front teeth b/c she couldn't stop sucking her thumb (by habit), she had to get a partcial a long time ago. She is in her 50's and still admits to sucking her thumb. I also work with children . I see 11 year olds sucking their thumbs. Trust me, it is a harder habit to break than the pacifer. I have been working with children for 20 years. Of course I'm not a doctor this is just my opinion. My son had a pacifer (which I was against at first but the hospital gave it to him, said they need that sucking sensation esp, when they are a new born) Anyway ,he just threw his down one day and didn't need it anymore. Of course it's not that easy taking the paci from all kids but I still preferred the pacifer.

Edie - posted on 03/21/2009

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My son did the occasional thumb but mostly sucked his middle three fingers in his mouth at the same time. When he started seeing the dentist for first visits around the age of 3, the dentist suggested I get him on the pacifier and off the fingers. He said the pacifer wouldn't heart his teeth or change their position. Fortunately. my son stopped the finger sucking so I never had to try the suggestion.

App+7mnejhu - posted on 03/21/2009

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My 4 month old likes both (since 2 weeks old).   She lets me know she is tired or hungry by sucking on her 2 middle fingers, we were quick to switch off the thumb - she did most of this on her own.  That's when I feed her or help her go to sleep.  She uses her suckie to fall asleep, then spits it out. She tends to wake up with the fingers being hungry.  I believe she likes to chew on her fingers and fist to help with the teething pressure - doesn't like the Raz-berry soother as it is too big for her mouth right now.

Alison - posted on 03/21/2009

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I dont really think there is a better, we just got rid of my 21 month old twins binks because they were putting the WHOLE bink in their mouth.  I've always thought it's easier to take away a bink then a thumb.....My husband sucked his fingers till he was 13, so......

Samantha - posted on 03/21/2009

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Personally....I say pacifier. Cause you can always lose it. Once they start sucking thumbs, it is always there. That can cause dental problems later on.

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My kids were all dummy suckers they loved them soo much.  I prefer the dummy as it's easier to get rid of quicker and can do less damage on their developing teeth. 

Cheryl - posted on 03/21/2009

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Do what works for you! It is harder to get rid of a thumb. A pacifier you can slowly cut a little off and soon the child will get bored with it. Try what everyone says, but in the end do what is easier for you! Mom does know best. I have two children and one due in 3 weeks. Good luck!

Kelly - posted on 03/21/2009

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Take it from someone who is 28 and still sucks their thumb (I can't sleep oterhwise) I say pacifier is better. Once it is out - it is out....the thumb is "always" available and harder to break the habit.

Amanda - posted on 03/21/2009

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i prefer the soother mainly because when its time to get rid of it it goes to the garbage. now my son never wanted it or sucked his thimb. my daughter uses a sother but now only at bed time hoping when it tme to get rid of it she deosnt turn to a thumb lol

Jeniffer - posted on 03/21/2009

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I have had 3 girls and one out of the three took a pacifier and the other two took the thumb. So from experience the pacifier is soooo much better. You can actually get rid of a pacifier the thumb is attached. But honestly sometimes you just don't have a choice.

Brandy - posted on 03/21/2009

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I have sonogram photos of both my children sucking their thumbs. I tried giving paci they never used it. My oldest stopped on her own around 3 and my 2 year still sucks away. We are expecting another baby in a month and I'm sure he will be a thumb sucker too. Maybe it's hereditary.

Jo - posted on 03/21/2009

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Definatley dummy (pacifier). I've had kids who do both the 6 yr old still sucks his thumb and is finding it very hard to stop. The 4 yr old had dummy (pacifier) and about a year ago we sent it to the dummy fairy who left a present for him. Have had no problems since. It is much easier to get rid if a dummy than a thumb.

Sarah - posted on 03/21/2009

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I was aloud my thumb when i was younger and yes i will admit it i am 27 in april and i do still suck my thumb, when i am tired and on occantion have been court at work with it in while pregnant.
i decieded that there was no way that i would let my children have their thumbs. and before they were both 2, santa came along and swapped their 'yum yum' for a specail toy, and they were both fine with it.



so i would personally go with a dummy.

Patricia - posted on 03/21/2009

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after many years of seeing both ..i gotta say the pacifer, you can take that away when the time is right . i know adults who still suck there thumb when sleeping i think thats a habit that cant be broke

Sarah - posted on 03/21/2009

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I was aloud my thumb when i was younger and yes i will admit it i am 27 in april and i do still suck my thumb, when i am tired and on occantion have been court at work with it in while pregnant.
i decieded that there was no way that i would let my children have their thumbs. and before they were both 2, santa came along and swapped their 'yum yum' for a specail toy, and they were both fine with it.



so i would personally go with a dummy.

Sarah - posted on 03/21/2009

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I was aloud my thumb when i was younger and yes i will admit it i am 27 in april and i do still suck my thumb, when i am tired and on occantion have been court at work with it in while pregnant.
i decieded that there was no way that i would let my children have their thumbs. and before they were both 2, santa came along and swapped their 'yum yum' for a specail toy, and they were both fine with it.



so i would personally go with a dummy.

Tamara - posted on 03/20/2009

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I have 2 children who both suck their thubs when sleepy and bored.  Girl is 6 and boy is 9!  I do not know if there is any scientific backing to this but I nursed them both and they refused pacifiers unless I help them in.  I honestly believe there is a connection between thumb skin and the thumb sucking as well as bottle and pacifier.  As I said, not sure if this is a proven kinda thing but it seems if they couldn't have the breast they wanted the thumb.

Elizabeth - posted on 03/20/2009

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Quoting Hannah:

Alright, Pacifier Vs. Thumb.

What is better for Baby?



pacifier cause you can throw it out and thumb is attachedharder to break them of it



so in hind sight i would have given my daughter a pacifier

Ellen - posted on 03/20/2009

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Neither...but if you had to make a choice a paciffoer because eits easier to ween off



The thumb sucking is not a very good option as the child can use this method for years and when teeth start showing they tend to hook the thumb around them start  gently pulling the teeth out of alignment which subsiquently results in exspensive dental treatment in teen life

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