Am a vigin female 24 yo my knowledge about growing up kids is too little and i am not planing to get married i found out finally that i can adopt kids from us foster system all what i need to know if i can adopt 5 kids from the system i wanna know how much will it cost me to adopt one kid ,how to avoid fights among them ,how to avoid the word
Youngmummy - posted on 09/11/2012
Yes and no. It depends on the environment and the influence's your children are surrounded in.
We adopted children are no different than other children, so think of it as having your own child. I am pregnant and I too worry about how my child will cope with life itself and the challenges yet to come. The unfortunate thing about life is, we are surrounded by sinful things, like bullying, racism, bad language and so much more so really, there is no escape. Only to teach your child from right to wrong, back to front etc. You must also teach them ESL (English Second Language) when they start schooling. My siblings and i were taught English from the day we arrived and now we all speak it fluently, we were even in extension English! Honestly, life is hard itself. If anything bad happens, that's how it is. Life always has challenges lined up for you, and adoption is a big responsibility. You know yourself more than anyone else, so perhaps you should ask yourself can i do it? Are you ready to face whatever comes your way? I cant really predict whats going to happen because every adoption is different. Like birth. Giving birth to a child is the same process, but some might be more complicated than others etc. Get the drift ? But i hope all goes well, dont worry yourself too much. Youre giving a child another chance at life, God bless and good luck!
Sandra - posted on 09/11/2012
Oh thank you very much but i know that kids are not like pets but i love kids and i never care about their colors i am fair in color but am planing to adopt an african kid and i will give him or her my life and i will protect them from others bad language about them but do you think it is going to be that hard i just wanna know from you because u had this experience so if you supply me with more knowledge and i really never care about the skin color cuz my wish was to marry an african guy but my parents refused that is why am planing to leave them and adopt african kids to be my whole life
Youngmummy - posted on 09/11/2012
I know I'm not answering your question properly but I am adopted myself. You do have to realize
Adoption is a very big thing not only for mums but for the children themselves. You can't avoid them saying things you dont want to hear, and you definitely can't avoid them from fighting. Bickering amongst all children whether they be blood or
not is completely normal. You have to think just beyond the simple
things about adoption e.g will they get bullied for not having real parents? If they're
a different skin colour to you , how will they cope when other children ask why your child doesn't look like you. I have two other siblings adopted as well, none of us are related
but we come from the same country just different islands. We all faced bullying in primary school about our adoption. And as a mother, I'm sure it would affect you just as much to see
an innocent child go through this. All adoptions are different as are the children. I'm not sure about the process of adoption but what happens is they send you a picture of a child attatched to the profile. With my parents I know they didn't get to choose us but i think you can reject if you think the child is not suited to you. Adoption is not like a pet store where you can take what you pick which is good. And adoption is beautiful. I love my mum so much. She's everything to me. I'm certain you will love your children. Good luck!
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