Am I a bad mom?

Jessica - posted on 02/29/2012 ( 204 moms have responded )

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My child isn't crawling or walking yet at 10 months old. does this make me a bad mom?

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Teri - posted on 02/29/2012

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It doesnt make you a bad mom at all! Every baby is different. Some baby's go straight to walking and never learn how to crawl. They say that "tummy time" helps. Dont worry too much! Everything will fall into place soon! =)

Anne - posted on 03/01/2012

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A friend once told me: "We can't wait for our kids to start walking and talking, and once they do, we wish they would just sit down and shut up!"



There is nothin wrong with your kid. My kids didn't start walking until almost 17 months. They didn't feel like it.

One never crawled, just butt-scooted.



Forget those baby books you read and stop comparing your kid to other kids you know. Every kid is different. If there is anything wrong with your baby, you will know and the dr. will tell you.



Oh, and both of my kids had diapers until 3 1/2 years. My youngest had his pacifier in bed at night until his 4th birthday.



Both kids are right on track developmentally. Just take it easy and relax.



Good luck!

Jaime - posted on 02/29/2012

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It would be wise for you to consult your doctor, because had you done that already you would probably have saved yourself the drama of posting on a public forum about how bad a mother you are because your baby isn't crawling or walking. Ten months isn't failure, it's just your baby's own pace. If your baby is sitting up, can hold his/her head up, can move around, etc and so on then I'm sure it is mere weeks or months before the elusive walking begins. My son didn't crawl until he was 10 months and he walked at 12 months.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/01/2012

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Are you kidding me? NO! Every child is different. Do not compare your child to others, that is always a big mistake. My son NEVER crawled....and literally walked into the kitchen on his own at 14 1/2 months. He never walked before that. My daughter started crawling at 13 months, and started cruising the furniture at 14 months and at 15 months was walking. If your son is not crawling, he just isn't ready. Let him take his time, and don't put so much pressure on either of you!

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first of all, the average walking age according to the books is 12 to 15mo. some babies walk early, some are late.



secondly, if your baby is rolling around and sitting up then i wouldn't worry. some babies skip crawling all together. so don't fret, she'll figure it out.



some ways you can encourage her are by crawling around with her (we did this with my baby, it worked pretty well), not picking her up and carrying her everywhere, not letting older siblings (if she has any) bring her things or carry her around, and setting some toys just out of her reach so she has to at least get on hands and knees to get to them.



i'm sure once you try these ideas out it won't be long before she starts crawling around. it shouldn't be much longer anyway. if you're still concerned, ask your doctor, as he/she would be able to assess the situation much better than anyone on CoM.

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Julie - posted on 04/19/2012

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No. Just put toys he likes to play with just slightly out of his reach so he has to move to get them. Put him on his knees at a low stool or at a couch cushion on the floor. Babies walk and crawl at all different times. The average age of crawling for my 7 children was 12 months and the average age for walking was 15 months. Some kids just aren't as motivated. If they can get around by rolling sometimes it take awhile for them to see the need to do anything else.

Kristal - posted on 04/18/2012

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You are most definitely not a bad Mom!! My son is 1, and he scoots on his bum, hardly ever pulls himself up to stand along the couch or table and definitely isn't walking...but he talks like crazy and everything else he is doing just fine. I wouldn't worry about it at all!! Some babies never crawl and just start walking! Maybe yours will do just that! Most babies don't walk till around 14months anyways!! Stop worrying about it and enjoy the time that she is not running around getting into everything, because when that does come you'll wish it wasn't there yet!!

Brandy - posted on 04/16/2012

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No this does not make you a bad mom, my daughter is almost 10 mths and she just started sittin up a few weeks ago.

Sarah - posted on 04/13/2012

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Is'nt it funny I was walking at about 6 1/2 months, and my mother talked about it being suggested she was forcing me into things too early. My brother was talking before he walked and again it was suggested she was doing something wrong, my oldest was 4 months old crawling and 9 months walking, people thought I was lying and refused to see what they were seeing, my second was 6 months crawling and 11 months walking, people told me there must be something wrong with him since his older brother walked so early, my daughter and youngest crawled at 5 months and walked at 8 months and again I was told I was lying. My step father never crawled, and just started walking at 15 months. all this shows is every child is different, don't let anyone tell you that you are a bad mother because of how fast or slow your child develops, if you personally feel there might be something wrong go and see a doctor and ask some questions, my oldest was non verbal until he was 5 and as the peadiatrition said to me "cirtain developments will occur in time no matter what, unless there is something physical interfering, and even if there is they do not make anyone a bad parent"

Chantel - posted on 04/12/2012

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No never. Every child is different and they all develop in their own time. My son crawled later than others and he didnt start walking until 14 months. He is nearly 2 now and is running around everywhere.



A little girl at my son's childcare didnt start walking until 19 months and she now if off everywhere.



Give it time!

Tulip - posted on 04/12/2012

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No! My Rose didn't start until she was 11 months! Don't put yourself down each baby starts at its own rate!

Christel - posted on 04/10/2012

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I didn't walk til 16-17 months and didn't crawl much either, I rolled everywhere so no, 10 months is nothing to worry about :-) x

Tine - posted on 04/07/2012

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No, it makes your baby a normal baby!!

There is a huge variation on the time at which different (totally normal healthy)bubs do things, and as long as your baby is moving about in some way (wriggling, pushing him/herself along, rolling over, whatever) it's no problem at all. My daughter never crawled, it just wasn't for her, and at 11 months she got up and walked across the room, and was off! Other babies I know didn't walk until 18, 20 months or more, and thay all turned out just perfectly fine.

They are all individuals, so just put the worry and guilt in a box marked 'ignore' and enjoy your child ;-)!!

Candice - posted on 04/05/2012

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to each his own, enjoy every momen, dont rush your little one. it will happen.

Cheryl - posted on 04/02/2012

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No your not a bad mom! Baby's do things at different rates. Have you talked to your Pediatrician? It could be a developmental delay. Or it could be nothing. I would talk to them first.

Do they have older siblings? Sometimes, they are getting everything they need and carried around or picked up all the time cause big sis want's to take care of them. So they don't feel the need to explore or go get their lost toy.

Also, make sure the child has floor and belly time. If you put toys slightly out of their reach so they want to get a hold of them it can encourage them to crawl or move after it. My son never really crawled, he rolled and then pulled himself up and walked. Hang in there and big hugs!

Stephanie - posted on 04/02/2012

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that doesn't make you a bad mom at all. every single baby is different. you're baby will get it soon enough :)

Susan - posted on 04/01/2012

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No you are not a bad mom and try not to listen to all those who may be asking why baby not crawling yet, or making comments like well mine was doing it at such and such an age. A child will do things in their own time. I am pregnant with number 7 and all mine were of different ages for different obstacles. My oldest was the latest for most things but tbh I was partially at fault though as I never let her be on the floor and I was young and learning myself as she was my first. I didn't get much info back then and never knew what age they should be for different things. I've now learnt over the years every child is differnt and will do it all in their own time. Hope this helps and try not to worry :)

Marlena - posted on 04/01/2012

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You should check out Jen Singer's book: You're a good mom (and your kids aren't so bad either). It is the pat on the back that all moms really deserve. It had me laughing hysterically at times when I was asking the same question. I say, if your child is happy, there is no way you are a bad mom. Kids often do things when they are ready and not a moment before.

Brandy - posted on 03/30/2012

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My first daughter did not do anything until she was 18mths! However my baby daughter was walking at 12 mths all alone. Every child is different, don't worry. They will make progress when they are ready. If you are truely worride, talk to your pediatrician, they will help you on the milestones your baby should be at but at 10mths, shes too little to be that concerned about not walking. Make sure she has plenty of time down on the floor-- I say that with experience because My oldest daughter (now 7) was delayed in walking because I never put her down lol

Nicky - posted on 03/30/2012

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My baby is 9 mo old and just started rolling over both ways, and just starting to sit up. He is a preemie. He was born at 29 wks. I was all concerned....but each baby is different. Never think you a bad mom!

Pallavi - posted on 03/29/2012

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dear jessica

this is the first time that i am writing on this page although i am an avid reader. the reason is your question. i think as a mother its something that haunts us all at differant stages of our childs life. whether they are not walking, not eating,or the smallest of things that an ordinary child does or doesn't do; we tend to blame ourselves. we question whether we are doing the right things or enough.

i just want you to know that if you are worried, concerened and wondering about your childs condition; you are a mother, a mom, a mummy............ and a wonderful one!!

Its normal for many of the kids to not go through the crawling phase . my nephew never crawles and learned to walk at the age of one. some children take longer. But if you are worried, talk to your pediatrician the next time you visit him.

i hope you will get the answer you are looking for.

Ashlee - posted on 03/28/2012

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OMG! You are totally not a bad mom! Every kid is SO different at reaching their milestones. My son crawled and walked early (6mo crawl and 9 mo walk) But my husbands half brother that is the same age didnt walk until about a year or so old. Just like my neices and nephews. Some crawled and walk early and others at a year or older. Don't worry too much about this. I know what it's like to see other kids that do things before my son, and I feel like it is my fault at times... then I remember that every child is unique.

Jennifer - posted on 03/27/2012

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My daughter walked at 14 months and only crawled for a few weeks before. No worries. Just let your baby roll around and hold on to things while standing. They will get it when they are ready. Anyhow don't rush it once they get going they don't stop, ever! :)

Kati - posted on 03/27/2012

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OM! No! :) Most children begin walking between 10-15 months. I have four children and they were very different! I had one walking at 8 months, one at 10, and the other two 12-13 months. Your child will crawl soon, most likely he or she is learning something else and that's where the energy is focused. Make sure you keep up with your pediatrician so they can mark if it were to become a 'delay' (as of right now it isn;t :) ) You haven't done anything wrong. Good luck sweetie!

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I would start to worry if she didn't respond to loud noises or she could sit up or roll over on her own. I had one friend when i was little who's little sister would not respond to loud noises and she couldn't situp or roll over at 12 months. she would fall over if you sat her up. and you could drop a bomb right next to her as nothing not a peep. but this was about 40 plus years ago. When she as taken to the doctor and they ran test they found that Marina had no inner ear. So she had to be train to do everything. Marina would never hear.

My son started walking a 8 and 1/2 months he never crawled. he just walked. my daughter started walking a 11 months, my grandson walked at 10 months and my granddaughter walked at 11 months not much crawling from her. but I found walkers helpped out a lot. it got them to move more and then when they were on the floor they knew that if they wanted something the could get it if they tried.

Julie - posted on 03/23/2012

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Do you let them play on the floor...?

Put a favorite toy in front of them on their blanket when they are laying there andthat will motivate them to crawl towards it. They will always scoot at first... but let them keep trying ♥

Brittany - posted on 03/23/2012

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That doesn't make you a bad mother at all. All babies are different. If you are worried about it or it bothers you that much, look up ways to work with your baby and exercise her arms and legs for crawling :).

And remember, some kids never crawl. They just start walking. Yours might be one of those babies.

Jennifer - posted on 03/22/2012

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No you are not a bad Mom, like other people said that all children are different, my daughter did not crawl or walk until later either, if any of your schools have early childhood programs, i highly recommend it, the did wonders for my child !

R - posted on 03/22/2012

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Most babies don't walk until they are a year old or later. If you are providing you baby with plenty of opportunities to "move" ie: tummy time, couch cruise, etc., and the Pediatrician has not concerns with any other areas of development, then just be patient. One day your baby may just take off! And yes some babies don't crawl, or will begin crawling only after they have masted walking.

Claudette - posted on 03/22/2012

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No you are NOT a bad mom! No you are NOT a bad mom...I am goign to say it again, you are NOT a bad mom. Each child is different, my youngest didn't reach the 'milestones' that doctors use at the same time my oldest daughter did so I immediately thought I was doig something wrong. After several visits to the doctor and the suggestions of playing with her, getting on the floor with her, engaging her, etc. and so on, she'll do just fine. And she wasn't wrong. In fact, my youngest didn't have a crawl until almost 11 months...up until that point she sat, layed on her back, tumming time and all of that. In total she crawled for 2 weeks. One day I put her stand up against the couch to encourage her to use her legs and she took off running...

Lita - posted on 03/21/2012

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I am a mom of 2 preemies. My oldest (now almost 10 yrs old) didn't crawl at all until suddenly he stood up and learned to walk at 11 mos. I wasn't worried at all. The pediatrician warned me never to compare him to other babies, since he was 2 months early anyway. Well, easier said than done, I know, especially if your best friend who has her son 6 months earlier than yours kept comparing both. I wanted to give her the reality check that my son was definitely 8 months behind hers..doesn't need a rocket scientist to figure that one out, but apparently she didn't get any hints.

But in time she shut up when during the school age my son was accepted in the gifted program.



My youngest (now almost 6 yrs old) was 7 weeks early. She was entirely another story. As stubborn as an Aries child could be, she crawled all over by the time she was 6 months and started to walk by the time she was 10 months. Indeed she loved tummy time and she is also a stomach sleeper. Once she knew how to roll over (by 4.5 months), she napped on her stomach for 4 hours straight daily with me keeping my eyes on her fearing for SIDS. She gave me more jolts than my oldest to be honest.

Taneka - posted on 03/19/2012

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No it doesn't make you a bad mother. My nephew didn't walk until he was 13 months old. I think babies make the decision when they want to walk. Dont rush them in due time they shall walk. Just keep helping them and it will catch on.

Hannah - posted on 03/18/2012

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Not at all and please don't think that. Children develop at different rates and will do things in their own time. My son didn't really crawl much until around the time he started walking and he didn't walk until 14 month.

Letitia - posted on 03/17/2012

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my daughter crawled and walked b4 she was 1 but my son crawled just after he turned 1 and refused to even try walking till just b4 his second birthday i wouldnt worry all children do things at different stages

Janet - posted on 03/17/2012

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Don't worry Jessica, my baby girl borned on 6 May and just started crawling on13/3, she still does her army shuffle after afew steps of proper crawling.

Silviana - posted on 03/15/2012

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my daughter start to walk at 16 months. every child has her/his own progress. so, i think stop being stress. and it's clearly you aren't a bad mom :)

Victoria - posted on 03/15/2012

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ive got 6 kids and they all did things at different times and their own rate!! stop worrying!! :)

Sue - posted on 03/14/2012

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Of course not. All kids are different and on their own time frame for milestones.

Sharonica - posted on 03/14/2012

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one day unexpectedly he'll get up and walk. crawling isn't necessarily a needed development before they walk. So watch out he'll be climbing the walls lol

Kkrjrpleggett - posted on 03/14/2012

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A "bad mom?" No. Every child reaches milestones at their own pace. Is your child at least rolling around from front to back to front? If you are really concerned ask your doctor, but s/he probably just needs more floor time. My nephew is 3 weeks younger than my son, and while my son was sitting up on his own, and rocking on his hands and knees by 7 months, my nephew wasn't even rolling over either way by then. My nephew is a Very large child, 105% for height and 98% for weight, so I think that has something to do with it. My son is perfectly healthy, but 89% height and 46% for weight.

Busola Adenekan - posted on 03/14/2012

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Thandiwe - posted on 03/14/2012

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YES you are! LOL. I'm only joking. My friend's 2 and a half month old is lifting her head trying to sit herself up (personally I think it's wierd & early). That said every child is different. Some kids start CRAWLING at a year & a few months. Wait for her to do things @ her own pace. It will eventually happen and she just might surprise you by doing other things earlier than you thought.

Bree - posted on 03/13/2012

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My daughter started crawling at 10 months and didn't walk until she was 15 months. Don't worry!

Barbara - posted on 03/13/2012

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Absolutely not! No one can make your child do anything before they are absolutely ready to do so...not even you. lol Take it easy on yourself...mommyhood is hard enough without putting any extra pressure on yourself. :-)

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My 3rd child, now 20 months old, never crawled. He scooted on his bottom and didnt even start doing that until theday after his first bday. He didnt walk until 15 months. He has no developmental delays. He is just laid back...

NJ - posted on 03/13/2012

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Not having a baby reach milestones at the "average" time does not make you or anyone else a bad mom. All babies are different. If you are worried, check in with your pediatrician, who may be able to put your mind at rest or check to make sure all systems are go.

Patricia - posted on 03/13/2012

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Don't think you're bad mom all children progress at different rates I had children walk at 6 months 9 months and a year it all just depends on the child they do different things at different times

Cherie - posted on 03/13/2012

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Don't blame yourself but you might want to talk to your pediatrician about developmental delays. I had one child who was a bit slow in being able to sit up by himself. He had some delays but with therapy and practice he is a perfectly fine adult. Remember, your child will not be crawling down the aisle at his/her wedding. Be patient, be supportive and stop beating yourself up.

Erica - posted on 03/13/2012

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all children are different. when they are ready to crawl/walk they will. same goes for potty training. when they are ready they will let u know. so no it does not make u a bad parent.

Diana - posted on 03/13/2012

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Don't worry all babies start walking & crawling at different times. I think it is way too early to worry yet. LOL.



My older daughter was a late with everything except talking. I used to joke that she didn't have time to do the other stuff because she was concentrating on speaking. LOL.



She didn't start sitting up until she was around 10 months old. She started crawling around 12 months & didn't start walking until she was 15 months old. She also didn't start getting teeth until she was 10 months. She only had 4 teeth when she was a year old.



My sister's kids were walking by 10 months and had full mouths of teeth by 6 months!!! It really made me wonder about my daughter's development! I would have to remind my sister that she couldn't give my daughter the chicken nugget she was eating because she only had 4 teeth at a year old unlike her kids. LOL.



My nephew never crawled. He used to sit on his bottom & scoot across the floor using his legs. It was one of the funniest things I've seen. Then he just started walking.

Christie - posted on 03/13/2012

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As a developmental therapist, who works with 0-3 year old babies and toddlers, I say NOT AT ALL ~ unless you have done something that has kept her from having freedom with her body on the floor, you have not prevented her crawling. If, by chance, you have held her and supported and propped her more than allowing her to be on the floor by herself, you can rectify that by allowing it now. Kids all grow at different rates and develop muscle control in the same patterns, but different speeds. Sitting comes before crawling, as a general rule, so she is fine if she is sitting up. When she wants to get moving around, she will figure out a way ~ if she doesn't start to figure it out, call in someone to assess her and give you some ideas, but if she is just laid back/easygoing, give her some time :)

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