Am i a SH*T mother????

Deshnee - posted on 05/25/2011 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I am so tired of having no routine with my 8 month old,having a cling-on that refuses to even stay with daddy,having her waking up every 30min to an hour to use the breast as a pacifier and most of all not having time and energy for my 4 year old....I want to take the pills to dry up my milk...Am i a bad mother cos i feel like thats what i will be if i do so.....

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Kate CP - posted on 05/25/2011

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I agree with Teresa. About this age is when they get clingy for the first time. Weaning may help but it may not. If I were you I would try pumping some breast milk and see if she will take a bottle of breast milk from Daddy. If she does and it gives you a break then maybe weaning would help. If this plan falls flat on it's face then another idea might be a better option.

Don't feel bad for wanting to wean. Every mom goes through it. :)

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Allison - posted on 05/26/2011

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I breast fed until my daughter was 9 months but I supplemented with formula so at the end I was nursing 1st thing in the am and then in the evening I think. I wish someone had told me that was possible at the beginning!
Your baby needs to learn to fall asleep on their own without something in her mouth, I think so anyway. I guess I was so tired that I would let her cry for a bit and she learned to fall back to sleep on her own. I think by 4 months though & she was sleeping through the night. Some people think this is mean but she will just use you as a pacifier until she learns to self soothe.

Karen - posted on 05/26/2011

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I'm laughing at the thought that you can have a 'routine' with bottle feeding and not with breastfeeding. It IS easier, but my SIL is able to do it (I thought it weird at first I must admit). She had that baby only nursing at certain times and does not use nursing for comforting. I was never able to get the hang of that one.

If you haven't tried yet, nursing while laying down is good way to get extra sleep, just make sure you put your LO back in bed after or you'll create another bad habit of baby sleeping in bed with you. I also think that starting solids would be a good idea if you haven't already. It does get easier and don't feel bad about her crying when you leave her with daddy, My LO cries when I leave but is fine the whole time I'm gone and starts crying when he sees me get home.

Louise - posted on 05/26/2011

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No you have done the best for your baby and now it is time to reclaim your body. If you feel you want to stop breast feeding then do so. Find a formula milk and start to wean her onto bottles and see what happens. I can completely understand how you feel, you are not a bad mother so don't think that about yourself.

Jessica - posted on 05/26/2011

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I sometimes feel like I don't want to nurse any more, so I could get some sleep or time away! I think it's totally normal. I think your daughter is probably going through a phase and it will pass.

Stifler's - posted on 05/25/2011

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No. If you feel like bottle feeding will establish a routine you can deal with then go for it.

Christy - posted on 05/25/2011

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No, I quit nursing much earlier than that for all my kids. 5-6 weeks of nursing is enough to give them your good stuff (it's late, I can't remember what it's called). Anyway, baby needs a routine for your sake, and cereal at bedtime to keep her full for most of the night. She is old enough to start a sippy cup during the daytime and I bet she'd do just fine with a bottle at night. You need some sanity! It's just fine to be done with nursing.

Joanna - posted on 05/25/2011

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I feel like I'm reading about me! Except my little cling-on is 7 months, and my oldest is 3 1/2. I was just thinking today that even though I love breastfeeding, I can't take being a pacifier all night and being the only one able to comfort my daughter. I WISH I could stop breastfeeding, but she won't take a bottle or sippy cup, so I feel stuck until she's able to master a cup. But don't feel like a bad parent! It's totally normal to want your body (and sanity) back! It's tough being pregnant for 9 months, and then having the baby still need all of you for that much longer and more. You've done a great job so far, many moms don't breastfeed as long as 8 months! You've given baby a great start, and that sounds like a wonderful mom to me :)

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You aren't a bad mother if you don't want to breastfeed anymore.... you are human. That being said.... weaning may not 'cure' anything cuz your 8 month old sounds fairly normal to me.....

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