Am I being dramatic about my inlaws???

Rosie - posted on 12/20/2013 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I have been with my partner for just over 2 years we have a one year old together I have a 3 year old and he has a one and a 3 year old himself. (His one year old was conceived whilst we were together).
We used to go to his parents quite a lot but they would always talk about his other children and never ask about my 2, his family also get my sons name wrong! When I ised to take my daughter round his grandad said 'is this ... (His other one year old)' and I said ' no' and he said 'no this one isn't cute like ...' I was horrified!
Also when we have the step-children they are nearl always in dirty clothes or clothes that don't fit and too small! So I change them bath them let them wear my childrens smart clothes and his family still pretend I don't exist! They give all their hand me downs to his ex when she had a new partner lives with her parents and had support financially and my partner is struggling in his job pays for his other 2 children and I pay for mine!
Also his family did not come round for my sons 3rd and are coming round for my daughters 1st!
Am I being over dramatic? What should I do?

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Rosie - posted on 12/28/2013

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He cheated on my by the way he got with me n cheated on me with his ex I was pregnant when I finally learned the truth and we broke up for a while during the pregnancy. I should have been more detailed sorry.

Well Christmas has just been and I made a huge effort with his nieces and nephews and got his siblings presents too and we had his kids Boxing Day we all went round to his sisters and the fuss they made over his daughter was sickly really and the other 3 didn't get a look in and the presents I know it's better to give than receive but I'd never buy what they bought for kids. The 2 children with his last name got leapfrog vtech mothercare n next clothes n toys and the 2 with my last name got a book each and plastic cups which we first used to day and they have holes in them!
But I have come to the conclusion that my 2 will not be going round any more. They will have to text or call if they want to see them. Sounds cruel but it's just pointless going round when they aren't bothered :/

Gena - posted on 12/24/2013

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You said the one year old was concieved while he was together with you,but the child is from another mother?Maybe your inlaws arent happy with the fact you were together with their son while he had another woman pregnant and a child.Dont get me wrong i am not judging the situation at all,i think it would be important to find out why they dont treat your kids the same way.Maybe because they arent their bio grandchildren or maybe they think you destroyed the relationship of their son and the other woman he has kids with.I dont know,but maybe you could talk to them to find out why they arent accepting your kids.Good luck and please dont understand my post wrong,i really am not judging and i dont know your whole story,i just thought this would be the advice i could give you.Ps i find it great that you bath the other 2kids and let them wear your kids clothes.

Rosie - posted on 12/23/2013

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You too Hun!
And I know my parents don't treat his kids any different to mine so I expect they don't treat mine any dfferent to his, n he's the one that did the dirty not me!!
But hey ho it's Xmas time for me n my family to make some memories :)
Merry Christmas have a lovely holiday :) cx

Sheila - posted on 12/23/2013

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You are very Welcome. I hope you can get things set straight. To me that is just the craziest thing ever. I Wish you and your family a Very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year

Rosie - posted on 12/21/2013

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Yeah I know I understand what your saying even if you come across as blunt lol I don't mind. I'm thinking of just not taking my 2 to see them any more because it's just too much really, cos then everyone is happy and his 2 aren't missing out on his family plus I get a day with just my 2 :D and that's just the tip of the iceberg with them I mean one of my partners brothers is ok and the other one is 2 but his sisters omg I can't even go into detail! Haha but thank you for your advice will deffinately take it on board :) x

Sheila - posted on 12/20/2013

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you are not being over dramatic. This is the craziest thing I have heard yet. If i was you i would tell them no they are not welcome. My reason for this is because if they cant respect the other children then they dont deserve to be around this child. I dont care if the children are another race color or whatever you treat all children equally and if you cant do that then you will not be welcome in my home period. You will not treat my other Childen like that are nothing and then try to act all nice and stuff for the other child. You have to be the one to put your foot down about things like this. Even if it upsets someone. you have to do what is right for you children all of them not just 1. Sorry if this response to the post is harsh but that is how I would handle things. I mean that is just insane.

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