Heather - posted on 01/06/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )
My husband and I have been together for 8 years, married a little over 6. We have two beautiful girls, a 3.5yr old, and a 19 month old. I feel like our marriage is pretty strong, we work as a team, support each others interests/passions, and make it a priority to have (fairly) regular date nights. Here's my issue- my husband has a female friend that he's known since high school (they graduated more than 20 yrs ago) who got divorced almost 2 yrs ago from a total jerk and had a messy break up with a guy this last summer who was also not a good guy. Over the last 6 months my husband has hung out with her maybe 4 times (usually a dinner and glass of wine, with both our kids present - she has 3 of her own) sometimes at her home or ours when I have been at work (I work 10a-10p 3 days a week.) My husband has NEVER done anything to make me not trust him, this woman I actually really like but not sure I trust her. A couple months ago when my husband was at her house with our kids having dinner he called me at work to touch base. I let him know when I got home that night that it had been bothering me that they were hanging out only (it seems) on evenings that I'm at work. I told him I don't think it's appropriate for a married man to be hanging out alone with a single (very attractive I might add) woman, regardless of kids being there. I also said it was disrespectful for his friend to be asking another person's husband to hang out without his wife. I would NEVER hang out with a single guy friend alone while my husband is away. My husband assured me that he doesn't think of his friend in anyway but just a friend and that she's going through a hard time and needs someone to talk to. He also said he respected my feelings and would not continue to spend time with her when I am not there. Well, last night he called me at work and said his friend happened to be in the area of our home and was going to stop by with some dinner. I reminded him via text that I have told him how this makes me feel and that it's not appropriate. He apologized and said it was spur of the moment. I have never felt insecure about our relationship, my heart tells me that there's nothing to worry about (on his part,) but this whole thing has me close to tears. Of course I was awake all night thinking about it and I'm working the next 2 days so I can't really have a conversation with him... Am I being crazy overly sensitive??