Lauren - posted on 04/26/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )
My boyfriend of 6 six years has an 8 year old daughter with his ex-girlfriend. She refuses to allow him to take the child to our home for visits, refuses to allow me to meet the child, refuses to meet me. We're going through the courts, but it's been a fight every step of they way. She moves, fights venue, moves again etc. In the meantime, he visits with his daughter at her house only under her supervision. I am not allowed to be included, even in holiday affairs. She has him fix her car, do home repairs, they go out to lunch and to the movies etc. I've told my boyfriend that I do not like this arrangement. I feel like they are playing family.
I realize that it's important for him to see his daughter and for now this is the way it's going to be, but I don't like it. I think it's wrong and I feel completely disrespected.
My boyfriend tells me that I'm being selfish and it's about the child. I get this, but it still don't like it. Am I being selfish?? My boyfriend tells me that others think I'm being selfish, but I think it's the mother who is being selfish. There is no reason for her to withhold the child. No drugs, not criminals, we both have well adjusted adult children etc. I don't understand what his ex girlfriends issue is with me. She has NEVER even seen me or met me???? She refuses???? What the hell???
Can't wait to get a outsider view of this situation....