Sal - posted on 07/15/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )
I'm going for my 20 week scan tomorrow..we have 3other children who we haven't told about no.4 yet (I had a pretty nasty miscarriage last year and we, well I, didn't want to tell anyone till after the scan at 20 weeks ,as I don't think I could cope with my 6yr olds grief if something went wrong ..so far not selfish...
But tomorrow my husband wants my 5 &6 yr old girls to come and see the baby.. I don't want to take them, I'm totally terrified that I will find something is wrong and then I have to deal with them as well as my own feelings. I'm scared because of last time ( we hadnt told only then either) and also because I'm neàrly 40... I know they would love it but I have kept this private to save any thing going wrong and I have to explain to them, so I can't see why break it to them 1 day short.... I know they won't get to see the baby but I just don't need the extra stress of having to explain to them..my other child Is an18 yr old boy who just isn't too interested the way little girls are , he saw his sisters but not the age to really come with mum.