Anesha - posted on 12/08/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )
Is this a first time mommy thing? I feel like my mom is trying to play second mommy to my son ( EDD 3/1/16). Every time she buys something, example formula, or diapers, or wipes, or clothes, they have to stay at her house "for the nights that she has him". And she claims she's helping me out but if I want to take something she BOUGHT ME for HIM. I always get that response. I already told her that I'm not letting him stay the night at ANYONE'S house for awhile. She then tells me whatever I'm gonna need her because I'm gonna need a break from him when he gets 3 months old and I NEED her to babysit,me and S/O already have a plan set up and it works perfectly. My mom is the type to have strings attached to her offerings, and she also is very overbearing. Anyways, I feel like she sees my son as an object as a way to get attention from people, she wants to have a coming home baby party when he's like a month old, so all her friends can say Ohhhh look at how handsome he is congratulations( to her not me) and so she can be the center of attention and I've seen how she is with babies she doesn't like to give them back!!!. I said no because I was advised it is flu season, and his immune system isn't ready he hasn't gotten all his vaccinations, after me telling her no about the coming home thing she never responds then posts on Facebook for ," It's not that I don't care, I'm just backing off." like W.T.F. did I Do wrong? because I don't want my sons health being compromised by him being passed around by YOUR friends that makes me a bad person? She got upset because I told her he can't stay the night ANYWHERE for at least three months because I'm breastfeeding and I'm not ready when I'm ready to let him go she will know when I do something she doesn't like she goes and tells alllll her friggin friends and family and then I'm the bad person because I'm keeping my son away from her and not giving her what she wants. Her thoughts are he's MY graaaaandson and I have rights to him too. She considers me keeping him away from her not letting him stay the night and not letting her see him on a weekly basis. She says things like oh I want him on a schedule, and I don't want him having a used traveler system (he's not I bought it already), and I don't want his name to be this I like this better, and I want him to have a crib here, and I don't want my grandson around that or this, and your not gonna be able to breastfeed and I NEED to have clothes for him here and I NEED to watch him and so on and so forth. Me and my mom have never really had a relationship like ever, so the only time she will text is for my son, when she asks "what do you need still" the real question is "what does he need, for my house?" because she again has the assumption he will always be over there, which I have told her he won't. She says It's dumb fro me to breastfeed because I'm not gonna like it. I feel like she's using my son as a second chance to be a mom again and for her to be in competition with my Aunt. When my mom found out i was having a son she tells my aunt "oh that sucks your having a granddaughter, ill let you borrow my grandson", it kinda rubbed me the wrong way. I know I'm young and hormonal but geeeez,should I just let her pout,or should I just give in?