Am I being unrealistic because I want to adopt a child?

Kim - posted on 08/25/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My husband and I have 4 beautiful biological children which we love to death. My eldest is almost 11 and my youngest is 1 1/2 yrs old. We have officially stopped having more children after my last daughter. However, now I think we should adopt a child. My husband thinks it would be wonderful to adopt a child but doesn't think we have the room or money to adopt a child because we only have a 3 bedroom house. However, the house is large enough that we can make a fourth room in the play room which is big enough that we could cut it in half so that we had a 4th bedroom and a playroom. As far as the money, I am a registered nurse so I make decent money and my husband is a submariner in the Navy. We make a good living, though we'd have even more money if I didn't have to pay for a nanny while I work. I don't want to adopt a baby, I want to help a true child in need...an older child that would most likely be school aged and someone that is in the foster care system. Am I being selfish? Or is my husband just making excuses?

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Kim - posted on 08/25/2011

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My husband and I have both said in the past while our kids were younger that we would like to adopt a child. When I said we were done having children we both meant biologically. My older 2 children would like to adopt a child, although my eldest doesn't want to adopt anyone older than him. We understand that older foster children normally have issues, but I feel as though we could truly give a child a great family. I'm not saying I'm going to start the adoption process tomorrow but I think its something we should continue to ponder.

Kate CP - posted on 08/25/2011

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Just a question but if you're done having kids why do you want another? And, while I think it's beautiful and wonderful you want to open your home to a child in need...it's also very hard on families. These kids tend to have a lot of problems and it can be really trying for a family with young kids.

Just something to mull over...

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