Am I doing the right thing??

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This might be a long post so bear with me. I live in Arizona and it's now legal to grow medicinal marijuana. You are allowed 12 plants to grow if you don't live near a dispensary. Well, my in-laws decided that they should go to their friend that is a doctor and get their MM cards. Mind you, I do believe that it can only be given to people with debilitating conditions. But my mother and father in law have nothing wrong with them. They are both perfectly capable working individuals that just want a free ride to smoking weed all day. Previously when my husband was 6, his parents were hauled off for 6 years because of this growing op.

Well around March 2012 I stopped taking my children down there to visit their grandparents because I don't like the idea of them around it, inhaling the air and the chemicals in the house to make the plant potent. So I get a harassing text message on Easter telling me that I'm all these awful things because I don't want my children to get the wrong impression about weed. Sure I've smoked it in high school. But I think that is missing the point.

I don't want to be associated with it, I grew up in a drug addicted family and so did my husband. And I just don't want that for my littles.

So I guess what I am asking is, Am I doing the right thing by not taking my kids to see their grandparents because of the 12 plants they have growing in their house?

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/03/2012




Personally, I think you're overreacting. Do some research. Don't buy into the hype of the prohibitionists.

There ARE benefits to the plant, as a whole. And, they're generally better off if you don't use chemicals in the growth product.

Your kids will not be affected, whether it's negative or positive effects, by being around a plant. The only plants that I know of that can cause an issue by merely TOUCHING them are poison ivy, and poison oak.

Nor are the plants hazardous if eaten. You can't get high from eating a leaf. Sorry, but you just can't.

Since your inlaws are within the law, are adults, and are capable of making rational decisions, I am not surprised that you've offended them. It's one thing to not want your kids exposed to things like smoking, etc. However, it's entirely over the top to refuse to let your inlaws see their grandchildren because of the horticultural choices they make, especially if they aren't smoking when the kids are around.

Just out of curiosity, do you hold the same view about alcohol?

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I get they are adults and I understand what people do in the privacy of their home is their business. But when my kids are running around and yes the plants are everywhere. Then my oldest has to ask me questions like "why does grandpa smoke" then I think I have to make it my business. I know you can't get high from pot smoke. It's just the basic principle for them to have respect for our wishes for them to watch my children. They don't have any discretion for anyone. I understand what you are talking about, don't get me wrong. But I just don't want them to get the wrong impression about stuff. I think every parent wants the best for their little's.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/03/2012




It is really up to you, but if they are doing it legally, and they are grown adults, stop judging them. You don't have to bring your kid their, and your reasoning behind not wanting them near drugs is fine. But stop judging them so harshly. I personally wouldn't care. I doubt they are on the windowsills or somewhere the kids will have access. I don't see the big deal if they are doing it legally. Pot plants cannot get you high just by being around them when they are growing.. It is just a plant. You have to dry it and smoke it to have the effects.

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