Am I doing the right thing?

Tammy Leigh - posted on 07/16/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hi moms :) I have two children aged 3 and 17 months and I am pregnant with our final baby now :) I have always had a bit of a problem with my in laws (my mom in law and sister in law). They have always though I took their son/brother away from them. Earlier this year my sister in law created a fake facebook profile to add me and then sent a message to me telling me that I am a pathetic mother and that one day my children will see it. She said that my husband is cheating on me etc and it was a clear message to break my marriage up and to make me feel really bad about myself. When my husband saw the message he got straight on the phone to his mom (his sister lives at home, she is a teenager) and told her what had happened. she jumped to her daughter's defence and told him that if she ever sees me again she will bash me. And his sister was in the background threatening the same thing. He told his family that they are dead to him. I told him that I didn't think I could ever forgive what had been done, it was just too much. So I have made it very clear that if he does talk to them again (they are his family so I can understand to a point) they are to have nothing to do with me or my kids. Now I am told that I am using my kids as a weapon, but I don't see it? I just want to protect them from people like that. I need advice please ladies.

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Carly - posted on 07/16/2014

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Wouldn't let my kids be around someone like that either. Just be careful that your husband doesn't start to be manipulated by them into thinking you're the problem. I wouldn't talk to those two any more.

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Tammy Leigh - posted on 07/16/2014

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Thank you for your response hun, it made me feel a bit better about it all x

Serene - posted on 07/16/2014

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Wow!!! No, you are doing NOTHING WRONG!! I think that it is strange that the teenager is making fake profiles on FB; sounds crazy and youre husband is making the right choice. Even though this is his sister and mother he has his own family and that is you and his kids. I wouldn't allow sil or mil to see youre children or be any part of youre life until they apologize to you and your husband. That was very disrespectful towards the both of you, espicially telling you that he is cheating on you; thats wrong!! Sometimes we have to let those go that are a part of our family and move on espicially if they are hurting us in the long run, its not even worth staying in a toxic relationship with them and unsafe for our health. You don't need all of the stress while you are pregnant and LO's at home.

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