am i eligible to get my tubes tied on the pension being 25yrs old with 2 kids and being a sinlge mum and i dont no more? and if so what costs would be involved?
Michelle - posted on 06/16/2012
You're only 25, you have no idea what the future holds. My husband was never going to get married or have children. He met me when he was 40 and we have a 2.5yo together.
I was also NEVER going to have any more children after my 2 boys from my first marriage. I even told this to my husband but like I said, we have our daughter.
It's best never to say never because things will happen in life that we haven't planned on and will take us a cpmletely different direction.
Melissa - posted on 06/16/2012
i definitely dont want to get married thats for sure im dead set against marriage, im single cause i dont want to be locked in a relationship im happy being single and i definitely dont want anymore kids, but like i said i'll talk to the doctors about it
Put it bluntly....you get your tubes tied..you may think you are doing a right thing.. But, what if you meet a man and get married..You know...meet Mr. Right and get married and you both want another baby together..If your tubes are tied...that isn't going to happen. Besides, I have heard alot of people have problems after having their tubes tied. Some don't. My sister did however had her tubes tied and she gotton fat and so on. Another thing...some doctors don't tell you...after about 10 years, they can come undone and you can get pregnant again. But, that problem is you can have the chance of having a tubal. My sister did however get pregnant 17 years after that being done.
Just think about you having it done and you might want another later on.Is it the right choice?
Melissa - posted on 06/15/2012
the thing is i have quite a few health issues and a couple which are hereditary and i really dont want any chances of my kids to have them problems, and besides the fact ive never really wanted kids in the first place but now ive got my second on the way i dont feel the need for a big family im a person who wants to be able to settle down with a steady job and get fit not sit around watching kids all day once these two are grown up i wont plan on being a granny for quite a while... but i'll talk to the doctor and see what they say and i really dont want to be on contraception as its never really been good with my body, but yes thank you for the advice i'll talk to my GP very soon and see what they say
Jodi - posted on 06/15/2012
I highly doubt a doctor will do it. If I were you, I would discuss birth control options with your doctor. But remember, even if you have your tubes tied, it is not foolproof. There isn't a single birth control method that is (short of having your ovaries removed :P Maybe you need to keep that in mind :)
Another thing to keep in mind is that you ARE very young. You have a whole life ahead of you, and you need to ask yourself that IF you meet Mr Right, and he wants a child of his own, where would that leave you? There is still plenty of time in your life to meet someone new, and you may want to have another child. By tying your tubes, you will be limiting those options (and this is the BIGGEST reason a doctor is unlikely to do it for you).
Michelle - posted on 06/15/2012
Check with your doctor. They may say you're still too young though. My cousin wanted to get hers done after her 2nd but she was in her early 20's and too young. She now has 6 and still on government assistance. BTW she was single as well.
Good luck but I don't really like your chances. Maybe look into long term birth control like the Mirena, Implanon or Depo shot.
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