Monica - posted on 01/04/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )
Please let me know if this would bother you? My daughter has Facebook. She is 13. Her Dad, my Ex has a young Girlfriend (dating a year) who also has Facebook. When they started dating, my kids spent some time with her & him. After about 6 months, I decided to write her a note introducing myself & offering to meet with her. Not because I wanted to be nosy but to get to know her a bit because she was spending time with my kids. My ex doesn't talk to me because he is still bitter over my decision for leaving him & our marriage. I did say in the note that there were always 2 sides if the story & that I was happy he had found someone. Anyways I never got any response. Of course I am curious now & decided to Google her. Found that she had a Twitter account. It was public, so checked it out. Really couldn't care less about what she was doing. I saw that she posted a pic of my daughters which I wasn't happy about so sent her a message to remove them as she never got authorization. She then blocked me from her Facebook. I really don't care but what I do care about is now my daughter has her as a friend & if the GF posts anything on my daughters account (ie comments on photos), I can't see them. Is this wrong? I feel like it is. The GF has been told about me from my Ex so of course he has painted me to be bad. The GF now claims I am stalking her. I have never other than those 2 messages ever contacted her & never gone to her whereabouts. I finally met her & had a run in with her this summer when I found out I was dropping my daughter off at her Dads only to find that he wasn't there & that the GF was & she was driving her to meet him 2 hrs away. Like any Morher, I had a right to meet this person if she is taking my child. She tried to take off in her car but stopped when I screamed at her to stop the car. She got out of the vehicle calling me a psycho & that she wanted nothing to do with me.
I'm sorry for asking this but after so many years of emotional abuse, my esteem is not that great & I always have to second guess myself even if I know that as a parent I have the right to know who my child is hanging out with. Am I wrong?