am I naïve for giving my sons father upper hand to insult and blame of our son

Gugulethu - posted on 01/30/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )

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He is abusive verbally and keeps blaming me for the birth of our son. Its been 9 months and he continues our son is now 4 months and he still continue. How do I get over him and let him go

I am trying to start over but I keeping wishing he could acknowledge our son and this hurts me

Plz be honest with me. How do I let go and deal with the pain inside with out being depressed

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Gugulethu - posted on 01/30/2015

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Dove thank u for ur words, I really dnt have the energy for all the court proceedings and procedures, I want to focus on raising my son alone as he doesn't waant any thing to do with knowning his child.

sad dat he was so in to me before we fell pregnant an now I am the monster that ruined his life . He has a baby with someone else and adores him. That kills me more knowing this is his boy too that he turned his back on.

I forced for my son to be known by his parents and took the child there but till today they haven't even asked abt my son so I hurt because he deserves to know his family and they dnt care

How do I move past this !!? Help

Dove - posted on 01/30/2015

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He blames only you for the birth of your son? Does he not know how babies are made? lol

Honestly... you have zero control over what he says or does or thinks. All you have control over is how you react to it and what you do about it. Personally I would recommend seeking some counseling... and a lot of time to let yourself feel what you feel. It's hard and it hurts, but you CAN get through this and you and your son WILL be OK. It really just takes time.

If you do not have a court order for custody, visitation, and child support... I highly recommend you seek legal counsel and get something set in place as soon as possible.

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