Am I over reacting!?!

Sonya - posted on 05/09/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )

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First, lets just say that my son has constantly had trouble at school. I am starting to think more and more now that it isn't 'ALL' just my son's attitude that the problem is.

I got a call from school, form the principle that my son was misbehaving, had a huge attitude, and when I ask what he had done, she told me that he was rolling around on the floor when it was time to work. (OK, and what am I supposed to do about that, I thought.) Now this could just be miscommunication, however, to me that doesn't seem like 'bad' behavoir that I need to be troubled with at work.

Also note, that since I can't get away from work today, the teacher is going to call so that we may discuss his attitude problem.

Now I will be the first person to tell you that my son is a little shit. But lately (the last few days) my son has been awesome at home, almost completely independent. No problems. ( And yes I know kids can act differently when mom isn't around)

I should throw in that my son is 6 years old, born in september, and in french immerision. And that this will be his last year in this school. I am only pulling him out because he is going into grade two next september and cannot read. And I think it's too stressfull learning a second language for him, and want to take that stress away so that he can focus learning his primary language.

Help? I just don't know what to do or think any more, there is so much that has happend I could write a book.

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Amy - posted on 05/09/2013

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Honestly if he's constantly having behavioral issues the school may be saying enough is enough. It's a disruption to the rest if the class, and as a parent you should want to be made aware of what is going on. I understand you have a job and its disrupting to you but it's very much a disruption to the teacher and what she trying to do.

Cecilia - posted on 05/09/2013

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Schools can be a little over zealous about letting parents know about things like this sometimes. Take a realistic look at it and see if it concerns you at the moment. If not, let it go.

As far as him being bored. Yea it happens. Children eventually find a way to deal with it.

My oldest, who is now 15, Had an issue of sever boredom with school. He got to a point where he was not disturbing the class and I would still get notes about him counting ceiling tiles or rolling a pencil on his forehead. When i got these sorts of notes I would let the teacher know if he was not disturbing the class I personally didn't see an issue. He had decent grades (b &c's) so why spend the energy and the class time to correct a behavior that didn't hurt anyone.

The truth is some people learn better by putting their mind to work in other ways. I learned in college that I learned better (in history class) by drawing. It was a 4 hour night class. My brain wanted the distraction. You might wonder how does that work out. When the test came around I would remember what the professor was saying during a certain part of my drawing and it was easier for me to recall because I was able to associate it with something.

The point to all of this, When he finds his way of being quiet but busy in class, don't let the teachers bully you into thinking he is wrong for doing it.


As far of when do you say enough is enough...Do you mean when dealing with teachers or with him? It's enough when dealing with the teachers when you feel they might be nit-picking. When is it enough for him... That depends, what options do you have? Sometimes it might be better to seek out those options as soon as possible, Examples of this might be ADHD, behavioral therapy, special classroom set ups, different schools, ect. Sometimes you just let them mature some.

Sonya - posted on 05/09/2013

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So, my son and I have discuss these things many times. I agree that he is too told to be rolling on the floor. I also think that it is something the school should have handled without calling me, he wasn't kicking or screaming and having a toddler trantrum.

And we know he has mental or physical concerns. He just gets bored, she is extremely high energy and always has to be busy. Don't get me wrong I'm not complaining.

Also, I'm not going to punish his personality. But when do you say enough is enough.

Cecilia - posted on 05/09/2013

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Ok first, rolling on the floor is a little old for that one. Maybe the only thing you can do about it is talk to him about what is inappropriate and when it is okay to do. Like rolling on the floor at home, perfectly fine.

Some children just don't read for awhile. Other countries don't even start the reading process until 7. Their literacy rates are superior. Don't stress him about reading and tell him one day he will just get it.

I think you might be slightly over reacting. Yes it's fine to be concerned. and if you feel the school is too much for him- or simply not doing enough for him, feel free to pull him from it.

Mind you boys in general have a very very hard time sitting still for long periods and never do well in doing so when they get into school. Sometimes it is ADHD, sometimes it's just that male gene in them. Be patient with him and he will be okay. (my 12 year old still gets behavior notes, i just deal with each one as it comes and discuss that note.)

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