am i over thinking or is my toes being stepped on

Jennifer - posted on 01/10/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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4 hrs after I gave birth my childsfathers girls friend came to the hospital and told the father to bring her the baby which the hospital didn't allow the next day she came in my room with father started taking family photos of them in front of my family. I have asked for drs apts just be mother and father girl friend don't agree so they change dr date and go without me we share custody I know the gf is gonna be involved in life but I don't think she should take control of everything. I don't think I should have to speak to her to talk the my childs father he has supervised visation now and his girl friend said he cant visit without her should I let her in my house after all this can I denie her from going in to dr apts

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Ev - posted on 01/10/2015

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As to the doctor appointments, no one is usually allowed back with the children but the parents, legal guardians, or others the parents appoint to be allowed to know the medical history of the child. The GF legally is not allowed to know this under the laws of privacy protection in the doctor's office and frankly she would not be allowed to be in the room with you, the babies, and dad during the visits as she is not a relative allowed to know. KEY WORD: She is not even step mom or relative you have allowed access and you do not have to allow that access. YOu said dad has supervised visits. if they are at your house and she is not allowed inside, she can not come. If they are done in public there is not much you can do.

Jennifer - posted on 01/10/2015

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oders say nothng was gonnask judge didn't know if I had the rite we share custudy so he has access to medical although has never asked 1 question about them don't care if shes around just feel she thinks she has as much rites as me.i don't feel we should be at drs and having someone who has disrespected me so much. to be stand staring me down while the drs are talking just feel she should give me respect he don't pay child support I work 70 hr week and take care of 7 month old twins

Michelle - posted on 01/10/2015

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You don't have to let her in your house at all. If the Father has supervised visits then you are the one taking baby to appointments right?
In that case you can tell her to get lost, it's not her child and to stay away. You can't stop her being around when it's Dad's time though.
What do your court orders say about boyfriends/girlfriends being around baby?
How old is the baby now? I'm not understanding how they changed the doctor's appointment.

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