Am i overreacting?Bday issue Pls help

Gena - posted on 03/19/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Our neighbors girl is turning 5 on a saturday. She was always invited to our sons bday parties. Yesterday the mother told me that my son and another neighbors daughter are invited to her bday party. But they may only come at 1o clock. She told me the other kids are coming to eat lunch,they are going to do mini pizzas where every child can make their own pizza and then they are going to make crowns to wear. She told me she doesnt want my son or the other girl to come eat because it would be too much for her. 4other kids will be there at lunch.
My question is,am i overreacting for finding this rude? Should i say something or just ignore it? Would you send your child to this party or not?

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Chana - posted on 03/20/2015

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I just can't believe someone would do that it is very rude. They're 5 how much can they eat? I would skip the party all together and do something fun.

Dove - posted on 03/20/2015

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Definitely rude to 'invite' them to a part of the party and not the whole party... especially considering that's only TWO kids. Two kids don't eat or cost much. Either invite them to the whole thing or none of it.

If I were you I would take your son to do something special that day... and even consider inviting the other neighbor girl along... so her parents can choose an alternate for their daughter if they want. ;)

Ledia - posted on 03/20/2015

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I think the neighbor is being very rude. I would do as your husband suggested--skip the party all together and do something fun as a family instead.

Raye - posted on 03/19/2015

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It does seem a little inconsiderate. She could have given the time to show up, and left it at that. Or, better yet, she should have found a way to include everyone in all the activities, or not have included lunch as part of the party.

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Gena - posted on 03/20/2015

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I asked the other girls mother how she feels about it. She just said "oh well,in that case she is not use to cooking for alot of people" and "dont take it personal". Thats why i thought i would ask for your opinions because my husband and i both find it very rude. Wasnt sure if we were overreacting. The mother of the bday child still had the guts to tell me ideas of what to give as a present. My husband and i both decided to do somethimg special that day. I am not going to tell them that our son is not coming and i am not waisting our money on buying the girl a present. If she asks me why he didnt come,i will tell her the reason:I dont find it fare. As simple as that!

Gena - posted on 03/19/2015

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Thats exactly what i thought Raye. I am glad i am not the only one who finds it inconsiderate. My husband is also dissapointed and said we should do something fun as a family that day.

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