Am I spoiling my baby by sleeping in the bed with me?

Katty Lee - posted on 11/26/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I have a 4 month old and I bin having other moms (older moms) tell me I shouldn't let my baby sleep in the bed with me. Im careful and make sure nothing happens. My husband tells me I should let her sleep in her crib for when we need our alone time but after our alone time he rolls on the other side of the bed and sleep. I guess what im asking is am I spoiling her too much? If so how to I break it?

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Marian - posted on 11/26/2012

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I wouldn't consider it spoiling the baby. Many families are now considering co-sleeping as a form of additional bonding. What you need to watch out for, is if it starts to affect your relations with your partner. Also, if don't intend to co-sleep with your child long term, you may be establishing a pattern of behavior that at on point will have to change. An we all know change is hard, it;s especially hard for a child who just wants their way. So, there is nothing wrong with co-sleeping, as long as everybody is on the same page. Restful sleeping!

Lacye - posted on 11/26/2012

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Denikka is right. Right now, it's not that big of a deal. You can't really spoil a 4 month old. My daughter was always really good about sleeping by herself but now at 3 she mostly sleeps with me. If it makes you more comfortable, just wait until she's older.

Denikka - posted on 11/26/2012

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I sleep beside my partner every night and we have 2 children (3.5yrs and 1.5yrs). We have slept with them since they were born. We started putting them into their own beds at roughly 18mos, but invariably, they find their way into our bed at some point in the night. We choose to co sleep.

It's not spoiling There's nothing wrong with it as long as everyone is comfortable with it. It CAN cause relationship issues though. If your husband is uncomfortable with it, then it may be something that you need to compromise on. Perhaps start her off in her crib, then when.if she wakes up in the night for a feed or change, you can take her into your bed at that point. :) That way your hubby has his *alone* time with you, and you can still co sleep.

ParkswayVoodoo - posted on 11/26/2012

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your husband may be craving more attentionvfrom you as well so maybe its a good idea for your situation to have her in the crib on most nights. my situation was different because i was alone, but you arent alone

ParkswayVoodoo - posted on 11/26/2012

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my three year old always slept with me, but i was a single mother. up until i got married he was always in bed with me and on occasions, still let himsleep in bed with me when my husband is out or coming home late. as long as you enforce disipline as she gets older, i dont believe she is getting spoiled, my sn isnt as ive always been firm with his discipline

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