Am I the only mom that has kids that would rather be at their grandparent's house?
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Christina - posted on 10/09/2009
Ha! trying living at the grandparents house! :) lol My 3yr old daughter prefers grandma to me. I get so upset. She thinks I'm "taking her away" from grandma for bed and clean up time. It's almost like punishment. IT does hurt...But like the others have said, grandma and grandpa have a good way of spoiling them and I think she'll grow out of it. My older boy uses it against her and the baby is catching on quickly. I'm doomed.
My daughter is 6 and I felt like the worlds worst mom cause she always wants to be at my mom's on the weekend. However my Mom said it was the same way with us when we were little and it's OK. I look at it like this, I have great memories of my grandparents now that they are no longer here and would not trade those times for the world.
Jamie - posted on 10/09/2009
No you are not the only mom.... my oldest would much rather stay with his grandparents. I have come to the conclusion that it is because grandparent like to spoil and us moms and dads have to set all of the rules and be the bad guys. I just tell myself that the grandparents have done their time raising their kids it is inly fair that the get to spoil their grandkids!! Keep your chin up your kids still love you the most!
Christina - posted on 10/09/2009
HAha There is no fun without a sword! My Ruby does the same thing. Scream and cry to stay up with grandma. I have to admit she wins a lot of the time because I don't want to drag her kicking and screaming into the bedroom when the baby is already asleep in the next room. I am constantly telling my mom that I am the Mom and these are my kids and they HAVE to follow my rules. It took me a long time to finally say that. But it just has to be that way. Don't forget that! You're the mommy.
Julie - posted on 10/09/2009
OOH dear! I live next door to my inlaws and there is a path litarely between the 2 houses, when I had my first born I was sooooo frustrated that MY son was happier (I thought) at his MIMI's and PEPERE that i felt like a horrible mother.....you know what I figured it out, eventually, My sons (I now have 2) love me very much and when they are in dire need they come to me, because I let my kids have a relationship with their grandparents regardless of the spoiling. For this my kids will have wonderful memories of their grandparents and a glimpse into a world that they would no have otherwise experience only heard of.....(Watching their grand parents work and be in their everyday lives has given my kids good examples of work ethic and what can be achieved and they've also learned to respect the elder and so on so forth as a busy mom I am grateful for the teachings my kids have gotten and will continue to get as they grow older and hear more stories and learn more tricks for the older generation....
So you see its not all bad and in no way do grand parents spoil our kids to make us miserable I think it is truly to enjoy their grandkids and of course spend time with them.
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Nichole - posted on 10/09/2009
I have a 3 year old and a 17 month old also. They would rather be at my parents place too. My mom laughs when I go to leave and they have a fit because they don't want to come with me. She acclaims this to bad parenting. I knew it wasn't true. I watched my kids behaviors over time to notice why they dont want to leave. I have seen that they was afraid if they left my parents house that they wouldn't get to see them again. See you being the mom you are a consistent in their life. They don't get to see your parents as much as they get to see you. They know you will be their. They are afraid that your parents wont be their next time.
September - posted on 10/09/2009
Don't let it hurt your feelings. Our 11 month old son also loves his grandma's house. I picked him up from her house the other day and he cried when it was time to leave. Grandma and Grandpa's house is fun! I remember when I was a kid I loved my grandparents house. What's not to love? You get spoiled rotten there!
Kelly - posted on 10/09/2009
I am going through the same thing with my 3-year-old. She was always the neediest baby, and since I nursed her for 15 months, she was literally attached to me constantly. Now my mom keeps her one day a week while I work. She used to come running saying "mommy, mommy", so happy when I got home. The other day when I came home she busted out crying because she knew it meant grandma was leaving! It does hurt, even though I'm glad they have so much fun together. The part that bothers me is that my mom feeds her junk food terribly, even though I am fairly picky about what my kids eat. I mean, a typical grandma day involves chocolate milk, chocolate pudding, chocolate chips, brownies, and then chocolate cookies. I don't even exaggerate. This is not to mention the fact that I only give my little ones milk or pure (mostly unsweetened) fruit juice, or of course water. My mom gives her Hi-C/Kool-Aid type drinks, potato chips, etc. Drives me crazy, but what can ya do, right? My parents let her get away with being bossy and not using good manners too. It wouldn't be so bad every now and then, but once a week is a bit much.
Teliah - posted on 10/09/2009
You are soooo not on your own!! My 5 kids would much rather be anywhere but here it seems sometimes! Especially my parents place, who we too lived with for quite sometime with the eldest 3. I guess they get so comfortable having been there, that they feel they have run of the place. The youngest two never lived there, so they don't really make that same connection. I'd like to say they grow out of it, but I really don't know lol. Definitely not alone though:-)
Miranda - posted on 10/09/2009
My oldest lived with my Dad from 9 months old until 4.5 years old. We shared a home together. We just recently moved out and her new request is to go live with my Dad. She loves my Dad. I understand their relationship because I had the same relationship with my Grandma. I am glad that she is attached to him. I now instead of fight it encourage her to go over there more. I'm working on getting my 2.5 yr old to go visit him often as I want her to have that close relationship with him as well.
Don't let it get to you. I know it's hard but in the end be happy they do have a relationship with their grandparents. My kids don't and won't ever get to meet my Mom or her new family ( I have never met her either) so I feel like I want her to be close to her family members
Christina, we went through hurricane Ike and lost our home and had to live with my mom and dad for a while. I think that's why he's so attached and in a way I went he'd cut loose. He will cry and cry to stay the night with them everynight. They joke and say just to let him move in. But I don't think they really realize how much it bothers me. I'm at their house right now visiting and they're making pirate swords. LOL.
Melissa - posted on 10/09/2009
I know how that feels. My son loves being at my in-laws house and on the days when he doesn't go over, he'll ask to see them. I'm glad he likes being there, but I know what you mean about feeling a little hurt sometimes. I think it's like that with a lot of kids. Like the other moms said, grandparents spoil them and as parents we can't do that all the time! lol
ANGIE - posted on 10/09/2009
my kids are 7, 5, 18 months, and 4 months. every one of them would rather be at Nana's or MawMaw's. and there is usually a HUGE fight to get them to come home. I think the reason is they get by with more. Things they know they can't do at home, they can do at your mom's. and also there is candy. I try not to take it personal, but it does hurt my feelings too.
It is crazy. They give them anything want/need. I think it's good they're so close to them though because they have grandkids they can't see. My dad plays pretens with them all the time. It's too cute. They do give me a break though. I just had my 3rd baby and I get overwhelmed somedays.
Anna - posted on 10/09/2009
We have had that problem in the past! Grandma and Grandpa's house is always fun. I know it was for me when I was a kid...lol. We tell our 3 year old that she will see grandma and grandpa in a few days or whenever we are going to be there next. Sometimes she fusses but most of the time she realizes she will get to come back and is fine. Keep your head up.
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