Am I the only one who is angry that my 13 month old wont sleep in her crib?

Joanna - posted on 01/03/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




My 13 month old has been cosleeping since she was born, however, ive always tried to put her in her crib at 9 after ive nursed her to sleep and then bring her into my bed when she wakes up, usually around 12-1 am. Lately shes been waking up even when i move from the couch. Its like she knows shes going to her bed and will wake up and cry and scream forever!! It breaks my heart and i end up feeling selfish for wanting some "me" time or "me and hubby" time. I am someone who wants results fast... Is there any quick solution to get baby to sleep in her crib?

She wont take a paci and hasnt found a cuddle object yet either.

In distress... Please help!!!???


Lise - posted on 01/04/2012




Maybe don't put her IN the crib. Put the crib mattress on the floor, nurse her to sleep, and sneak away. If someone picked me up, moved me to a new location, and then put me down, I'd wake, too.

Or you can try putting a warm heating pad in her crib (just warm, and obviously remove it before placing her in there), so she won't be laid on a cold mattress. Nurse her on the couch, move into her room, maybe nurse a little more to put her back to sleep, then remove heating pad and lay her down.

The sneak away method worked SO WELL for my daughter, though!


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Karen - posted on 01/04/2012




I don't think there's a fast and easy way. You could try a technique that's been know to help tho. You could try and put her in her crib and sit beside the crib and as she starts getting used to that slowly move farther and farther from crib until you are sitting at the door. I think this may take a week or two but if it works it would be well worth the wait. Good luck!

CJ - posted on 01/03/2012




Unfortunately, if there's a fast way I never figured it out. I found it easier to breastfeed at night if my daughter slept with me, plus she didn't give me much choice. She refused to fall asleep anywhere but on my from the moment we got home from the hospital. I could occasionally get her to let me lay her down on the couch during the day while she was sleeping, but at night she would sleep no where else. After we stopped breastfeeding (5 months, i just wasn't making enough to keep up with her, and the more I tried to, the less I produced) we tried getting her to sleep in her bassinet. I found that getting her to sleep on me and putting her in it never worked. I had to lay her down awake and then sit by the bassinet and sing to her and have my hand on her tummy till she fell asleep. And even that didn't work until she was moved to a crib at 6 months. It took me until she was a year and a half to get her to go to sleep on her own without me in the room, and we still have trouble getting her to sleep and with her waking up crying for me at night, and she'll be 3 in a month. The best advice I could give, is try out different things until you find something that works for you. I had a lot of people telling me to let her cry it out. But that has never worked with my daughter. She doesn't cry and wear herself out and go to sleep, she just gets more and more worked up until she's not breathing properly and I have to blow in her face to get her to stop. Some kids at the daycare I worked at would fall asleep if you rubbed their backs or face, this worked a bit on my daughter when she was younger. But will keep her awake if I try it now. Hopefully the sleeping issue doesn't last as long for you as it's seeming to for me. We're still trying to figure out a way to not only get our daughter to go to sleep easier, but to sleep through the night as well.

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