Am I the only person that thinks this...Grief is grief and it is disgusting to think that one persons's grief is more important or significant than another's ? Grief is grief, whether it is of the death of a child, parent,spouse, sibling,friend, lover etc. .Who are we to diminish their loss....


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Tam - posted on 01/08/2012




Grief, like love, is a wholly relevant emotion that is felt in different ways in different situations.

It is nobody's place to minimize another's grief. Each time I have lost someone in my life, it has hit me like a Mack truck. Each time, it was terrible to to endure. But each type of grief was different, though no less severe.

I've yet to lose my mother, and I've never lost a child, so I have no way to know what you are going through. You have my deepest condolences, though, and I hope you weather the storm.

Liz - posted on 01/08/2012




You're quite right, nobody should weigh or compare one grief against another. Any grief is awful for the person experiencing it. I'm so sorry to hear that you lost your mother. *hugs*

Kate CP - posted on 01/08/2012




I think it's cruel to try and compare grief. Whoever told you that, Deb, was being heartless. I'm very sorry for your loss. *hugs*

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You're right. No one should try to compare one person's grief w/ another. You can't do that cuz no two people are exactly alike. It was very heartless of someone to do that to you and I'm sorry you lost your mother.

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You are not the only person who thinks that way, Deb. Grief is a personal thing and no-one has the right to diminish your grief, no matter if you are grieving for a blood relative or a friend. All grief is significant and worthy of respect. I'm sorry you lost your Mum. You have my sympathy.

Deb - posted on 01/08/2012




Ok, I'll give you specifics. I've been told that my grief in losing my mother doesn't compare with the grief of losing my child. To me, losing someone I loved for more than 40 years was pretty significant. I would not or could not compare the loss of my child to the loss of my mother, husband, father etc,,,I can't and I won't say losing one over the other is worse. I will never say that to anyone. It is heartless. I know, I've experienced it. You can never know another persons pain. The death of anyone is painful and difficult to measure.

Ez - posted on 01/08/2012




You will probably need to be more specific in your explanation if you want any genuine input on this topic. But yes, nobody has the right to dismiss another person's feelings, especially in grief.

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