Am I the only person that thinks this...Grief is grief and it is disgusting to think that one persons's grief is more important or significant than another's ? Grief is grief, whether it is of the death of a child, parent,spouse, sibling,friend, lover etc. .Who are we to diminish their loss....
Tam - posted on 01/08/2012
Grief, like love, is a wholly relevant emotion that is felt in different ways in different situations.
It is nobody's place to minimize another's grief. Each time I have lost someone in my life, it has hit me like a Mack truck. Each time, it was terrible to to endure. But each type of grief was different, though no less severe.
I've yet to lose my mother, and I've never lost a child, so I have no way to know what you are going through. You have my deepest condolences, though, and I hope you weather the storm.
You are not the only person who thinks that way, Deb. Grief is a personal thing and no-one has the right to diminish your grief, no matter if you are grieving for a blood relative or a friend. All grief is significant and worthy of respect. I'm sorry you lost your Mum. You have my sympathy.
Deb - posted on 01/08/2012
Ok, I'll give you specifics. I've been told that my grief in losing my mother doesn't compare with the grief of losing my child. To me, losing someone I loved for more than 40 years was pretty significant. I would not or could not compare the loss of my child to the loss of my mother, husband, father etc,,,I can't and I won't say losing one over the other is worse. I will never say that to anyone. It is heartless. I know, I've experienced it. You can never know another persons pain. The death of anyone is painful and difficult to measure.
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