Kelly - posted on 07/11/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )
My son will be three in August. I have some concerns about the way he behaves, but I am wondering whether some of it is normal or I am overanalyzing things since I worked with kids on the spectrum. He is very verbal. He speaks complete sentences and is very intelligent. I guess that my concerns are more geared to behaviors. He will repeat the same thing over and over, sometimes as much as 10-15 times. He gets over excited and will tense up and put his two hands together and rub them and shake them. I just had a baby in August, and he HAS to touch her. When he does go to touch her, he does that thing with his hands and will always go for her neck and/or head. He is not in any way trying to hurt her. He just, for some reason, NEEDS to touch her there. He will always play right next to her or sometimes even sit on her. I am afraid to leave her anywhere near him for fear that he may accidentally hurt her. He prefers to eat food frozen, for example frozen pancakes or waffles or pizza. He always tells me not to cook his food, not understanding that some things just have to be cooked. He will whine the whole day sometimes. His whine is just noises, not whining with words. He has never been in a daycare or preschool, so he is not the best at interacting. He will just run up to somebody, especially girls, and wrap his arms around their legs if they are bigger than him or tackle them and lay on top of them if they are his size or smaller. At home, he is not quite as bad with that. It is more with strangers or people that he does not see on an everyday basis. He will also cover his ears when someone yells or there are loud noises such as fireworks. I could probably go on, but I have probably listed enough. Don't get me wrong, there are a lot of positives about him. He does have a good personality (when he isn't whining). He doesn't get really angry that much and is lovable. He will show affection. This is why I am wondering if I should be concerned now or maybe just wait it out a little and see if he grows out of some of the unacceptable behaviors. I just want answers, because my husband will sometimes give him a spanking for some of the behaviors, especially when he keeps touching the baby. But, I don't want to punish him if it is something beyond his control. You can try and tell him and teach him, but he just keeps doing these things. It is like he absolutely has to be doing these things. Any suggestions??