Am I wrong for disliking my step son and his mother ?

Jenna - posted on 04/08/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )




I came into my step sons life when he was six, he is now 9 will be 10 in August. From day one his mother has treated me horrible. Calling me and yelling, screaming in my face, fighting with me if I was the one who picked the child up. Telling me over and over how I am not his mother and I need to stay out of his life. She also treats my husband horrible. When we got pregnant for our daughter she called to tell him it wasn't his. She just made it up to cause problems. I could go on forever about all that she has done.
We are now in a court battle and she is requesting that I have no contact with her, I don't pick up the child or attend his sports events. I have no idea what to do about it. As for the child he tells me "I don't work" and "this is my dads house " " my dad said I could" he treats my 2 year old and 4 year old bad. At this time we're going threw renos and he has to share a room with my son. He said he isn't coming back until he gets his own room. Right now I am pregnant and I'm getting so tired. My husband is upset that I don't have a good relationship with his son. It's to the point that I don't even want him to be around. Any advise ? Does this make me a horrible person?


Sarah - posted on 04/08/2015




No it does not make you sound horrible. His mother is obviously resentful that you are in her son's life at all. You need your husband to step up and tell his son to stop the smart comments about it being his dad's house and that you don't work. I just don't understand why grown-ups can't control their behavior for the benefit of their kids! I wish I had some words of wisdom, but I really don't. You can't force her to like you and all you can do is continue to parent the boy when he is there and let him know you expect him to treat you respectfully.

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