1021complete - posted on 04/23/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )
My daughter will be 5 in a couple of months, and I have recently decided to keep her father out of her life, and I want to know if this is completely wrong. Her father and I were together for 10 years prior to her birth, once she was born I completely decided not to put up with his selfish and MEEEEEEE attitude. So at 3 months I left n never looked back. I have no hard feelings because I knew it was over b4 she got here. Since the separation it has been a CONSTANT fight to get him to come see her and he will only come when he gets in to his guilty mode and that is appx. every 4-6 months or more. Thru her growing up she has cried for him to no response from him. Also, since our separation he has become a drug addict, which I know is a fact because I had to have him committed to inpatient due to hallucinations, although he claims he is clean. I do not feel safe with him taking her anywhere nor does he offer he wants me to drop her off places. I will only allow him to visit her at our home because of his issue. My daughter was diagnosed with epilepsy (seizure disorder) when she was 2 and he decided he didn't want to be there for her "what can I do", he said. After his last stent of being away, which was from October 2010 to December 2011 I warned him b4 allowing him to see her again, that this would be the last time that I would this dead beat action in her life. So in January 2012 he decided to stop coming around again. That was is it. I made the decision due to her vulnerabilities caused by her condition not to allow this behavior in her life. Please give me your very honest opinion, Thank you in advance!