Am I wrong for telling him no?

Saria - posted on 11/11/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My ex fiance chooses to go to anime conventions rather than see his daughter yet he has the nerve to demand i let her stay with his mom so he can introduce her to his new girlfriend. After I have proof that he tells this girl that i refuse to let him see her when I have only told him he could not have her once and that was because he wanted a paternity test after a year of her being alive (I lived with him for 3 yrs before I got pregnant and he would not let me have guy friends and I KNOW he is the father). But let me straighten this out a minute... He lives separate from his mom. She asks me if my daughter can spend time with her. I always say yes then she tells me that he never came to see her even tho she called him and I called him to let him know that she was there. Yet he has the nerve to demand that I let her go over there so he can introduce the daughter that he never see's to his new gf that he tells lies to??? Am I wrong for telling him no?

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Firebird - posted on 11/11/2011

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I wouldn't let her go either. Actually, my ex and I are on pretty decent terms and we came to the agreement (my idea, he just thought it was a good one) that he can't intorduce a new girlfriend to our daughter until I met her *and* approved. And vice versa of course. But no, given his behaviour, I wouldn't allow it either.



How long has he been with this girlfriend anyway? I've always considered it inadvisable to introduce children to new partners unless the relationship has been going on almost 6 months and very serious. It's not fair for kids to get attatched to someone new just for it all to end in a few months.

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Firebird - posted on 11/12/2011

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Your daughter doesn't live with him. You are the primary caregiver and you are the one who gets to decide what people come around your daughter. It's not at all rude if you want to meet her, he chose not to meet your husband, that's his problem.

Saria - posted on 11/12/2011

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I have no clue how long he has been seeing her this is the first time i have heard of her and him as being a couple at all. I am married and he chose not to meet my husband. So he found it rude that I wanted to meet her first.

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