Jennifer - posted on 03/18/2011 ( 9 moms have responded )
My husband and I have had temporary legal custody of our nephew ( his sister's son) since he was 3 months old. He is about to turn Two in May... and we are still battling her for custody. She was arrested for an assault charge and her two boys were taken from her custody - they have different fathers so the older brother ( which we visit almost weekly) was sent to his father and my little guy was sent to me because his father was the victim. The father skipped town completely and is out of the picture. She went to jail/rehab for 6 months and got out on January 2nd, 2010. she immediately got pregnant again! (that's the best idea ever when you don't even have your first two kids back) and had her little girl in October 2010. She doesn't pay child support but once every 5 months just enough to stay out of jail or enough to say that she pays us some... she only sees him about once a month for 20-40 minutes at a time, most of which involves her texting her friends not playing with him ( and not playing with her new baby either - weird to me). Even when she does see him its only if/because we drive 45 min to meet her so she doesn't have to use her gas money... Then she gets an attitude with me and disrespects me, trying to control details like asking me to not be there so she doesn't have to see me to see her son... its ridiculous! we are pushing for termination of rights based on only token visitation ( visits that are just to make her feel good or look like she cares but are not about gaining a relationship with him...) Am I wrong? should I still go out of my way to reunite them? It started out temporary with an estimated 4-6 month period, but its been two years with no progress and actually she sees him less now... anyone have thoughts or opinions?