Am pregnant again with a 7months old son

Oluwatosin - posted on 01/23/2014 ( 22 moms have responded )

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Hello Moms
I am confused and scared, my son is just 7months plus and I found out yesterday,22/1/14 that am pregnant with another baby. My partner & I aren't ready for another baby financially, emotionally and phsically. We both agreed on abortion but am afraid and don't know if that's the best choice at this time.

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Leela - posted on 01/26/2014

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So here's the thing you need to get some professional advice on this. Suggest you talk to a doctor so they can walk you through everything. That way you can make an informed decision. Let them advise you as well on birth control so you won't have this issue in future. Ultimately the both of you have to live with this decision so what's most important is that both of you are at peace with whatever you finally decide. Good luck!

Courtney - posted on 01/24/2014

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I definitely understand that you are scared. Babies are blessings from God and I truly believe God will reward you and take care of you if you decide to keep the baby. It may not always be easy but there are so many ways to get help financially and church members are always a good place to look for help for babysitting, baby supplies, or whatever you are in need ok. My email is courtneystevens22@gmail.com feel free to contact me if I can help.

Sarah - posted on 01/23/2014

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If your husband did not release sperm inside you then you can't be pregnant. So maybe there was pre-cum? That is beside the fact now. What I would suggest is for you to look into adoption. This is a baby and how can you look at your 7 month old and think of killing this one. I understand that the timing is not good and you may not be able to care for another child right now, but that does not mean the child should not be given a chance at life just because the timing was off. Abortion is something that will live with you for the rest of your life. You will remember your due date. You will look at your son now and wonder what this child would look like. This child also has a purpose in life.

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Martique - posted on 01/27/2014

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Good Morning Mom. Firstly, I want to say I hope youre not emotionally hard on yourself for being in this situation.. The situation is HERE, should've, could've and would've is not physically OR emotionally helpful for you at this time. I have been on Both Sides of the situation you are in right now, and I have also made Both Decisions. When I had my Abortion, I Honestly, deep down in My heart, with everything in me at the time, felt I was making the best decision. The guilt, the unanswered questions, the shame and thoughts of the unlived life of my precious baby will stay with me for the rest of my life. Every Holiday, every event with my other two children, a show on T.V, a song, seeing other children, all these things play a part in my mind constantly. This is what a woman goes through when making the decision to abort a pregnancy. Sharing your situation with basically, total strangers tells me that this is weighing heavily on your head an heart. You are thinking ahead, which is what caring moms do! I now know that the future is ours to CREATE>>POSITIVELY>> NOT TO WORRY ABOUT!!! If you dont mind sharing your city or state, I will be More than happy to research Organizations that will be able to help you if (but I am Praying WHEN), you choose to keep and have your baby. my email address is ksheena20@yahoo.com. Having been on both sides of this fence, I know it is no ones place to judge, but I do Serve a God Who has brough me out of Turmoil, and I am not alone in that testimony. I will be Rooting for you, your partner, your 7 mo. angel and your unborn baby. I hope Ive helped you in some way :)

Makaiia - posted on 01/27/2014

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DO NOT ABORT U WILL REGRET IT FOR UR ENTIRE LIFE .. IT IS SOMETHING U CAN NEVER TAKE BACK PLEASE PLEASE DONT ABORT !! THERE R WOMEN ALL OVER THE WORLD WHO CAN NOT HAVE BABIES AND WOULD LOVE TO HAVE THE GIFT U HAVE .. PUT UR BABY UP FOR ADOPTION THAT WAY U R GIVING THE BABY AND THE ADOPTING PARENTS A LIFE .. RATHER THEN TAKING A LIFE .. WHY WOULD ANYONE WANT TO BE A MURDERER TO A SMALL INOCENT LIFE

Rola - posted on 01/27/2014

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This unborn child is a gift, it wasn't created by mistake. And you or your husband aren't the ones that will take care of it financially. Every baby is born with its own way to survive. I know this is hard to belive especially when bills are sky high. But soul searching you will know that this is not the way. It's not as easy for the woman as it is for the man. Ur the one who makes this decision and Ur the one who will live to go through the procedure and have unanswered questions. If it's the money that is worrying u. Money comes and goes. It does not control our lives. But taking a life ..Please think carefully. God bless.

Dayshen Shawkat - posted on 01/26/2014

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I have friend her son was 4 month and she was using condom and during sex condom just tear off and then she found out that she's pregnant and then she was like you very scared and she thought about abortion too but she couldn't kill her baby coz she's mum afterwards she found out that she's waiting for twice it's most difficult and she hasn't got family in UK also she hasn't any relative either and now she has got 3 boys and she looking after them without any support honestly coz sense you have them you will be able to cope with situation so I believe that abortion it isn't the answer....... I do believe it's very difficult but you will be stronger than that situation it's like challenge good luck hun oh by the way you're already pregnant so look after your self and don't think too much it's not good for you and for the baby either ;)

Skye - posted on 01/26/2014

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How are you feeling now. I know how hard this can be I used protection a lot. And fell pregnant on the pill and the diaphram and many other contraception a gave me Heath problems. I have ten children and you know what it has made me incredibly capable responsible and I have more love in my life than most people I know. So I feel so rich and blessed. And the hard times can make you stronger.

Leanne - posted on 01/25/2014

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I was in the same position last year. I had a 3yr old an 11 mo and was pregnant with twins. I had been on the pill so didn't find out I was pregnant till 9 wks. Me and my partner just about get by with two kids financially and physically. Everybody is different and it isn't just you to fink about ur other child will also suffer if you cannot manage. I had an abortion and yeah it upsets me when I fink about what I done and especially now I would of had them. But I just look at my family and know I done right by them. It would of been no life to be brought into and my children's life would of been turned upside down I struggle enough on a day to day basis. I hope this helps and good luck I hope you are ok with you're decision and if you need to talk or want to ask about abortion just message me. X

Tieana - posted on 01/24/2014

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Abortions can scar u for the rest of ur life...I seen it happen to someone before...i am due April 30th and I thought I wouldn't b ready but I kept strong and with all the help from friends and family I can tell it won't b as hard.,

Michelle Duvall - posted on 01/24/2014

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You can do it. Stay strong. Think of adopting and giving your baby and another family a chance at life and happiness. You won't feel good knowing you aborted a baby- trust me. I know your not ready to keep it financially which I completely understand. There is govt assistance for pregnant women go help the costs of childbirth low. I had govt help because my husband and I were both unemployed. I know it's hard to stay healthy for 9 months but I swear you will get through it. :)

Zeinab - posted on 01/24/2014

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God sent this baby to you , i know its little bit hard but belive me you'll be fine it needs some time , dont lose your baby !

Amy - posted on 01/24/2014

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I found out I was pregnant with my second child when my son was barely 3 months old. I thought I wasn't ready either but she's six. :). Just know that it will be fine. Don't abort just because you think you are not ready. I could never forgive myself if I had done that.

Tricia - posted on 01/24/2014

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I think its sad when people want to kill there child because that don't want to take responsibility for there own choices,.. why kill it?! You do know babies feel that pain right? Then they die with no say in any of it of course.. Set it up for adoption,.. yeah it might be hard but the thought of killing an innocent baby would be a tougher decision, that's just my opinion.. no judgments but its really not the babys fault you decided to have unprotected sex, instead of taking its life give him/her a better one with parents who want a child.

Petra - posted on 01/23/2014

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I was in a similar situation. I found it hard to find time for both. In the long run. They are the best of friends. They always have each other. Itsbeautiful how they take care of each other.
But you both dont seem well with this situation. Everything happens for a reason. Just remember, once you abort it. It is gone forever. Another issue to deal with for a life time

Dayshen Shawkat - posted on 01/23/2014

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Actually it's very difficult true but I think give your and your baby a chance coz if you made abortion you may not forget but it's up to you the decision it return to you and your partner honestly If I were you I would rather keep the next baby too coz they will grow up together and they will support each other I now it will be veryyy difficult but believe me I will be lovely too my son is 7 month and 23 days my partner not support enough to think about another one right now honestly I rather perfer to have another one they will be friend good luck hun you have plenty of time to make the right decision good luck again

Kayla - posted on 01/23/2014

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I got pregnant with my 3rd baby when my second was just 5 months old. Even though I had wanted it that way, I was still scared as to how I would do having 2 kids so close together in age. There are times when it's wonderful, and times where it's very difficult. Regardless of how you got pregnant, you are now and you have to figure out what it is you both want.
Personally, I would never have an abortion. I take the necessary steps and precautions to not fall pregnant when I am not planning on it. Having said that, I am pro choice (meaning I would never have an abortion, but I do believe it is each persons own right and choice). Ultimately only you and your husband can make this decision. Good luck ♥

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/23/2014

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How you got pregnant is irrelevant. The fact is you are, and you need to make the decision. If you are not comfortable with abortion (I don't blame you), then perhaps adoption would be the route for you.

Next time, perhaps a barrier method, or double barrier method would be advisable.

Oluwatosin - posted on 01/23/2014

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@Gena, my partner & I used protective and also my hubby never released the sperm inside of me, am just confused how it happened. Anyways thanks mom for your prompt response

Gena - posted on 01/23/2014

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Not to be rude but why didnt you use protection if you didnt want to fall pregnant again.
Maybe look into adoption.. I understand you are afraid and scared,but personaly i find an abortion not the answer in your situation. There are many couples that cant have a baby and they would give your baby a loving home. Please think about it well,because you might have to live with a guilt feeling for aborting this child.Maybe once the baby is here you could ask family or friends to help you out.And maybe you think now you cant handle 2kids but maybe you will do just fine.Good luck

Skye - posted on 01/23/2014

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You will be fine and your seven month old will love having a sibling. It is good to have them close together and then stop. Good luck and hope you can embrace this baby. I know it can be hard when you find out but you will love them just the same as your seven month old.

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