am so confused my son looks so much like my ex, we met a month before i got married, i think my ex is his father,what do i do about this.pls i need advise

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/08/2013

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If you didn't want to hurt your husband, you shouldn't have hooked back up with the ex right before you got married. Sorry, that's harsh, but that's the truth.

And it will hurt him more if you hide it now. Be honest. It's the only way to go at this point.

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Michelle - posted on 10/09/2013

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So how long after you last had sex with your ex did you find out you were pregnant?
I think we really need a bit of a timeline here. If you were having sex with your ex just before you got married I hope your husband knows!
YOU need to be upfront with your husband and let him now you were cheating on him before you got married. Don't be surprised if he leaves you though.

Gena - posted on 10/09/2013

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Its not going to be easy for your husband but he deserves the truth.You should sit down and talk to him and explain the whole situation.Its not fair for him or your son.They both have the right to know who the bio father is.

Anita - posted on 10/09/2013

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Thanks u all,just that didn't know my ex could except the baby and my husband had already proposed, unfortunately my son came out all like my ex, I just wanted to give him a father, because didn't know my ex was ready now he knows abt the child by just thinking on how to approch my husband.

Anita - posted on 10/08/2013

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Thanks ladies, just that am so scared don't want to hurt my husband, if the results turn out to be my ex, because I have the strong felling its my ex.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/08/2013

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Time to get a paternity test done, and be honest with both your current and all past partners.

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The father is the person you had sex with when you conceived. If you were regularly having sex with different men, you need to get a DNA test. Tell the possible fathers you were having sex with all of them during the time you could have conceived your son so you need a DNA test to learn who the father is. That said, they do not have to consent to the test if they don't want to, if they refuse, you need to get a court order for each of the men who refuse. Once you have the court order, they have to do the test or be held in contempt.

Gena - posted on 10/08/2013

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Take a DNA test.. Or are you worried because someone else thinks his the father and doesnt know there is a possibility the child is not his?Then you would have to be honost with him and explain why you want a DNA. Good luck

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