Amniocentisis, should I do it?

Lorena - posted on 01/27/2010 ( 120 moms have responded )

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I'm 40 years old and pregnant with our second child. I have a high risk of having a child with Down's Syndrome (1 in 63). I've had the combination test (blood work and ultrasound of the neck) and that was not helpful, my chances went slightly higher but it was not significant. My sister has a son with Down's and I've seen how difficult it can be, and we just want to be prepared for the child if there is a problem, but won't abort.

My biggest concern is the chance of a miscarriage (1 in 200). Has anyone had experience with this, good or bad?

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Kristine - posted on 02/12/2010

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I had amnio (I was only 36 but had other genetic risk factors as well as worrying about Down's). My suggestion would be to look into the various doctors. Many have MUCH lower rates of miscarriage than1 in 200. I have a very high anxiety personality, and I felt I had to ease my mind, so I opted for the test, and have no regrets.

Dana - posted on 02/07/2010

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yes, I was 19 weeks and 6 days had amnio then went into labor which resulted in the loss of my baby girl . Dont have it.

Tracy - posted on 01/28/2010

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I had my last child when I was 41 years old , I had a few ultra sounds and they ended up showing my son possible had a dark spot on his bowel, leading to many different possible genetic problems. When I went to my last ultra sound with a genetic specialist she also saw the dark spot and I had to make the dission right then and there for the amnio...so I did it, for me I needed to know what to expect. It was not painful and it was amazing to watch on the monitor. And he is 100 % heathly, no genetic issues what so ever. For me if I did not do it I would of stressed out until he was born and that would of done neither of us any good. You need to do what will make the rest of your pregnancy go smoothly amd keep you and your baby healthy.

Lisamarie81m - posted on 01/27/2010

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I dont have expierence with this but my opinion is if you know you are not going to have an abortion then why risk the test. You already know you have a high risk for downs syndrome so I say just educate yourself about it and be prepared if it does happen, if your child is born with down syndrome you will know what to do, and I am sure your sister will be able to give guidence. The thing you need to try to do is not stress, you will love your child regardless and maybe in the end your baby will be a healthy "normal" baby.

Melissa - posted on 04/13/2011

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an amniocentisis has a high risk of rupturing the amniotic sac, especially with your high chance of miscarriage. and if you plan on keeping the child either way then i would say to simply prepare as much as you can, assuming that you need to be prepared for everything. if everything turns out fine then you'll be overprepared, and if it doesn't, then you'll have readied yourself for it. as difficult as having a child with down's syndrome can be, they're such a joy. i've been working with a girl with down's syndrome for about 15 years. i only see her a couple of times a week, but she is always so happy, and she's really worked hard and is very self sufficient! best of luck to you :0) i hope everything turns out wonderfully!

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Sylvia - posted on 04/18/2011

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oo not hi risk my daughter was higher but son was ok ... tests can be wrong .. 4 d scan

Sylvia - posted on 04/18/2011

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no 4 d scan will show if baby has ds .... and then its up 2 you wot you do with information ... ... yes i do have a son with ds no i did not no before hand but i would of love to no that he had a problem with his heart that was a bomb shell he has sufferd with bad health ... and no i have never ever regreted my gorges son ... but yes hard work

DD - posted on 02/23/2010

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I've scanned through several of these answers -- My doctor also wanted me to have an amnio with my 2nd son (I was 39 when he was born) --- We told her we didn't want the test because we wouldn't want to abort anyway (It took me 10 yrs to conceive and I ddin't want to do anything to risk my baby and I certainly wasn't going to abort!) -- then she started telling me that it was important so that the hospital would be informed and ready if there were going to be problems -- my hubby and I still decided against the proceedure because any complications that I could have at 39 were NOT exclusive to my age group (there may be a higher possibility for complications with age, but a perfectly healthy 20 yr old could have any of the complications they would be looking for with their tests) -- and since the hospital would have to be prepared at the drop of a hat to treat any child born with complications I felt they would be ready for problems with mine anyway!! ---- I did have to have an emergancy c-section because my son's heart tones went bad during a very difficult delivery, but he was born perfectly normal and I never had reason to doubt my decision about any of the invasive tests we'd refused. I personally believe that many of the tests are simply offered because it runs up the amount of money the doctors/clinic/hospitals earn from your pregnancy. In all the discussions that we had over the topic my doctor never came up with a good enough reason to have the tests that outweighed the even remote possiblity of damage to or miscarriage of my precious child.

Allison - posted on 02/17/2010

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I have had the experience and I must say, it was one of the worst experiences that I have ever had. ANS, I am not squeamish at all. I would not do it again. I agree with Lisa, if you are not going to have an abortion, then why do it?

Kristine - posted on 02/12/2010

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I had amnio (I was only 36 but had other genetic risk factors as well as worrying about Down's). My suggestion would be to look into the various doctors. Many have MUCH lower rates of miscarriage than1 in 200. I have a very high anxiety personality, and I felt I had to ease my mind, so I opted for the test, and have no regrets.

Maria - posted on 02/12/2010

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Since you'd keep it, no matter what, you could skip the amnio (unless you have other concerns)... If you have an ultrasound during your third trimester, they may very well be able to tell whether your child has Down's Syndrome by their features. Maybe you won't have six months to prepare, but a couple of months will be helpful, at least.

Lisa - posted on 02/12/2010

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Hi Lorena, first of all congratulations! On my third child i was told that i was in a high risk of having a child eitha with downs, edwards disease or severe heart problems - i went thru many tests and blood tests and scans, same as you no doubt. I can say that i had the Amniocntisis test done and everything was fine, it was so nerve racking and i remember being very scared, I know in my heart that i had to have this done! As it turned out i have a healthy little boy who is now 8. share your concerns with the doctors, mine were so helpful and very supportive, This will be your choice and i think you should go with yor gut instinct, I wish u luck and a happy pregnancy!

Megan - posted on 02/11/2010

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Hi Lorena :) I'm 32 and can tell you that I went through the same questions in my head after receiving so-so news at my first ultrasound that there was a thickness in my baby's neck. I'm sorry that you are going through this and my heart is with you as you make your decision.



I will tell you my experience. I was only 10 weeks at the time and had to wait until I was 15 to get the blood word done which I can also relate too; that was not helpful. The results came back about the same...slightly better but nothing conclusive. I then spoke with a genetic counselor who was wonderful, Have you done that yet? She was really good at giving me the 'nitty gritty' on how the test works and what it will tell me....black and white. I was VERY scared about the risk of miscarraige but as I decided, the 'knowing' was worth it.



The techs that did the amnio were GREAT. They explained the whole process as it was happening and even tried to lighten the mood by talking and lightly joking with me about the sex of the baby and his 'already developing boy habits' as they guided the needle in using ultrasound. The test was quick and easy and I was able to watch the whole process which put me at ease. It's all there in front of you and they really do take every precaution necessary for the welfare of the child. At least in my experience.



I wish you the best of luck and ease in this difficult decision. I know its hard but keep the faith. Everything will happen just the way it's supposed to.



Take care and let me know how everything turns out, ok?



Best wishes!

Annetta - posted on 02/09/2010

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I was pregnant with my first child at 37, which sadly I loss to a condition called hydrops fetalis, where down syndrome was one of the many problems she had.



I had a heatly son at 39 and I am now 41 and hoping to become pregnant with my second very soon.



I have the same concerns you have, but I try not to look at satistics, because there is very good chance this might not happen to us, we just have to trust God and remain positive.



I would not worry the, I would just enjoy my pregnancy and do all I can to have a healthy one.

Daphne - posted on 02/08/2010

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Yes, you should do it. This is a good test to detect anything that might be wrong with the babie. I think you should go in this thinking positive, not always is something wrong. If I knew I was at risk there woulld be no question get it done.

Stephanie - posted on 02/07/2010

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I would not do the amnio. how do your ultra sounds look? with my 2nd child they found health problems at the 20 wk ultrasound. we didn't want to risk the amnio because we were not going to abort. they told us before she was born she more than likely had a chromosome disorder. so we just prepared for the worse case and it turns out she does have a chromosome disorder but it is very mild. i would rather worry about down syndrome and prepare, than risk losing your baby.

Andrea - posted on 02/07/2010

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If you don't have any intention of aborting then the best thing to do would be to prepare yourself. Amnio can cause miscarraige or preterm labor (depending on when done) and the added risks of that are not worth it. Be ready if your child has downs and if it turns out that they don't count your blessing!!!

Erin - posted on 02/07/2010

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hi there, i am 26 and i got a 1:60!!

supposedly there are many factors that can contribute to the result. in my case the 12wk u/s was fine but the blood test portion (beta HCG) was the factor in the 1:60. i was a bit sicker than the first one and my specialist (whom did the amnio) said that higher levels of Beta HCG (which can casuse you to be more nauseous) can cause you to have a higher risk of downs too. I ended up having the amnio and it all came back fine. I live in WA so if you do let me know if you wish to have the dr's name i went to coz he was FANTASTIC. He used a needle the size of a normal blood test needle (not a HUGE biopsy follower!) and it DID NOT hurt and was over within 2 minutes! he checks the baby over and can tell you whether its a boy/girl (if you want to know. I have nothing but praise for him. I had no pain afterwards, no bleeding, nothing went wrong. Of course there is that chanc eof miscarriage, but it all depends on whether you really NEED to know. the decision is primarily up to you! I have nothing bad to say about my experience. its really not as awful as some people describe if you go the right person!! hope this helps!

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I refused to have it with my son. Because we would have had him any way. When they do the 20 week scan they can get a good look at the baby, and can sometimes detect these things.

Bonnie - posted on 02/07/2010

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When I was pregnant with my 2nd child I was 41 years old. I had the triple screen test which came back saying my chances of having a downs syndrome child were 1 in 10, I had an ultrasound and was told my chances had gone to 1 in 15 and that I should have an amnio immediately to find out. I didn't want to risk a chance of a miscarriage and the outcome wouldn't have changed as I never would have aborted. I didn't have the amnio and delivered a very healthy son at 39 weeks. If you have no plans of aborting then I wouldn't risk the miscarriage. I hope this helps.

Krista - posted on 02/07/2010

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Here's the question that I asked myself: If my child had Down Syndrome, would it make me want him or her any less?

Besides, these tests have a very high rate of false positives and there IS a chance of miscarriage. I believe these chances go up with age.



I wouldn't make the decision to abort if my child had any sort of illness, so I didn't do it. But, it IS your choice.

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Hi Lorena:)

I had my 4th child at 38 (I have 4) and another one when I was 35. I was a high risk
pregnancy with everyone though becasue of different issues, but my last two
because of age and an increase in the risk of down syndrome. I am also an
ethnic jew and the geneticist encouraged me to have an amnio done as well
because of Tay-Sachs disease. However, I chose not to have one done. The
reason was if I did do it, there was a risk of losing the child because of possible infenction and/or miscarriage from having an amnio done. The second reason was, I didn't want to stress the entire pregnancy worrying about how I would care for a child with special needs. The constant worry, stress, fretting, all of things we shouldn't do when we are pregnant anyway, would have been too much for me. So, I felt that whatever the outcome my husband and I would deal with it when it happened. We
decided early on we wouldn't terminate the pregnancy anyway, so I felt for us, this
was the best choice. Ultimately, only you and your husband can make the choice
to be tested, so, pray about it and trust your intuition and guidance and I think
you'll be fine.

Hope this helps....

Tracy

Heather - posted on 02/07/2010

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I have an aunt with Down's Syndrome. Life is difficult but an amnio test would increase your chances of miscarriage and if you are going to keep the baby no matter what then what does it matter? You will love that child endlessly no matter what. I hope your baby is healthy but if it does have Down's Syndrome, there is nothing you can do about it. I would just pray and trust that God knows what he is doing and will take care of you.

Marcie - posted on 02/06/2010

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I am a mother with five children, the youngest with Down Syndrome and am so glad I never had the test. Our child is a joy to everyone he comes in touch with. He has all of us shaking our heads in wonder, laughter, frustration and amazement. He is no different than any of my other kids, just does things at his pace.

Donna - posted on 02/06/2010

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I'm now 45 years old and had my third child at 40. I was in your position and had an amnio it was the most terrifying time of my life however, I think looking in hind sight that the doctors scare you more than anything with their what if's and could be's. I also had gestational diabetes to make matters worse. My sister at the age of 33yrs old, also had a downs child with other complications that only lived till 4 years old......she knew because of tests.....this helped her prepare for the road ahead....mentally. The point I'm trying to make is that all of these problems happen to women of any age. You've had a baby before, you know how to look after yourself enjoy your pregnancy with nourishment and not fear.............let fate take its course.

Patricia - posted on 02/06/2010

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I have had 1 before (with my first child). It was necessary as he was insisting on being born 6 weeks early and they needed to see if his lungs were developed enough. In my opinion (and what I was told at the time) you should only get an amniocentisis if it is medically necessary (for you or the baby). I don't think it is a good idea to get one just out of curiosities sake (no matter your chances for Downes). Rely on what your doctor is telling you (get a second opinion if you aren't entirely confident with your doctor.

Gwendolyn - posted on 02/06/2010

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I was 38 when I had my last child and there was abnormalities detected during an ultrasound. They strongly recommended the test. My husband and I prayed and labored over the decision because we wanted to be prepared to give our child the best care no matter what. Like you, aborting the pregnancy was not an option for us. I cried many a night because it was a rough time for me. I was very sick and my son had just started having seizures. We decided that the risk of the test was not worth taking. Since we were going to have the child no matter what we did not want to take additional risks. We had the medical staff prepared for her arrival by C section taken early. We mentally prepared our family (very close to the birth date) that we did not know the full extent of the challenges this new child may face—that was the hard part because they had questions and concerns we could not fully answer. We waited to tell them because we did not want to scare them or ruin the Christmas holidays. It hurt a little inside every time people would ask “Is everything going great with the pregnancy? But we stuck our guns – until we decided to tell them and said things like ‘We await with great anticipation the bundle of joy God will bring us with all the adventures that will bring” My daughter is doing well and we just take things a day at a time.

Gwendolyn - posted on 02/06/2010

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I was 38 when I had my last child and there was abnormalities detected during an ultrasound. They strongly recommended the test. My husband and I prayed and labored over the decision because we wanted to be prepared to give our child the best care no matter what. Like you, aborting the pregnancy was not an option for us. I cried many a night because it was a rough time for me. I was very sick and my son had just started having seizures. We decided that the risk of the test was not worth taking. Since we were going to have the child no matter what we did not want to take additional risks. We had the medical staff prepared for her arrival by C section taken early. We mentally prepared our family (very close to the birth date) that we did not know the full extent of the challenges this new child may face—that was the hard part because they had questions and concerns we could not fully answer. We waited to tell them because we did not want to scare them or ruin the Christmas holidays. It hurt a little inside every time people would ask “Is everything going great with the pregnancy? But we stuck our guns – until we decided to tell them and said things like ‘We await with great anticipation the bundle of joy God will bring us with all the adventures that will bring” My daughter is doing well and we just take things a day at a time.

K - posted on 02/06/2010

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In response to Christina Nosker:



Why SHOULDN'T women have babies when they are over the age of 40? ... There is nothing wrong or inappropriate about having a baby when you are older ... many older women are perfectly healthy, able, and capable of having babies ....... and sometimes, that is the only time that they are blessed with being able to carry a child to term after trying for a long time ....



I have found that there are certain advantages to being an older mother ... here are one or two off the top of my head ..... I am more financially secure than I was at ... let's say age 28 .... and that allows me to give my child more material advantages than I could have when I was younger ..... another is that I have MUCH more patience NOW than I had when I was younger ...



and, as with just about every mother that I know .... it seems to be a universal truth that there is an endless supply of love [regardless of age] available for my child ... lol ...

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It is simple. If you would not choose to abort your baby even if he or she did have down's syndrome then don't put yourself thru it, even if you do get bad news if wouldn't change your out come of still wanting to have your baby. Even the amnio tests are not 100% fool proof. Best of luck to you during this stressful time.

Dominique - posted on 02/06/2010

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I was 35 when I got pregnant with twins my 2nd et 3rd child. I got an amniocentisis, because I didn't want to live what my best friend was living. She got a down syndrown kid at 26. In my head, it was clear from the beginning that I could never or wanted to cope with an handicapped child, very selfish I know. So My opinion is that you have to be ready to cope with the results mainly if it is positiv and that you re child has a problem and it should be more or less clear what you are going to do. The Genetisist, I hope I use the right word ask us what we were going to do if one of the twins was negative and the other positive. We did'nt have the answer ready, but we still decided to do it. Luckily, everything went ok and now they are 14 years old boys in very good health. To me the amniocentisi brought peace in mind and was just the right thing to do at the time. I do not know how I would have reacted if a problem had arisen, it was just the thing I wanted. I saw and still see my friend with her kid as you can see your sister. Her daughter is an 23 old young lady with drawing skills and a lot of joy in her eyes. Still I do not have any regrets to have taken an amiocentisis. I do not really believe in god, but I think if something should happen, it will happen not matter that you decide, for good or bad. By the way, at 40, if anything goes wrong you still have time to try again.. Take care and I wish you all the best

Lisa - posted on 02/06/2010

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I had my when I was 38, I opted not to have an amino because of these reasons. I did have the nucal testing and the test came back ok, the Dr. still wanted me to have the tests, but I declined, not worth the risk for me. You need to do what is best for you and your family! Good luck with everything and GOOD LICK!

Eleanor - posted on 02/06/2010

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I have worked with down>s for 40 years and they have been wonderful people if you take the chance and are blessed with a down

Emily - posted on 02/06/2010

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I would not do the test. I had an elevated risk of having a Down Syndrome child with my third, according to the quad test, my age and the statistics. All those numbers are are statistics at this point. It caused a lot of unnecessary worrying. We waited until the ultrasound at 20 weeks to make any further decisions. Though the ultrasounds don't catch everything, they can be very telling about DS signs and other complications. The amnio will just confirm if the ultrasound points to any abnormalities. Another thing to consider. . . .if the ultrasound does show issues and you need to find out what they are ahead of time, you can always do an amnio closer to term (say, 37 weeks) and then if there are complications of the amnio leading to pre-term labor, the baby will be almost "ready". Just FYI, our ultrasound looked great, and we did another at 32 weeks to be sure. Of course, nothing is ever sure until you meet the baby or do an amnio, but in retrospect, I wish we never did the blood test. Our baby is beautiful and does not have Downs Syndrome (we would have been blessed even if she did, it did not matter to us either way.) What we learned, overall, is that the statistics they throw at you are just statistics and they do not mean anything about your specific baby or pregnancy. Enjoy your pregnancy and best wishes on your beautiful gift from God. Worrying about what you cannot change doesn't do anyone any good.

Angie - posted on 02/06/2010

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I was told that my daughter may have it and the dr asked me to have one. My husband and a friend advised me not to have it because of the risk. I didn't have it done and when I told the nurse I wasn't going to have it done she argued, but then the dr looked at my results and found that after looking at the blood test again they had it figured wrong that they had my due date as being farther along than I really was. So my advice is the same I wouldn't have one done because of the risk.

Teresa - posted on 02/06/2010

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Lorena, when we had our 4th child (a stillborn) he was down syndrome along with other problems so when I got pregnant with number 5 it was suggested that I have an amnio but I was scared and opted not to have one done. I had a healthy child who is 20 now. No matter what you decide you if you are prepared you can over come. Good luck and Congrats on your new baby

Nicky - posted on 02/06/2010

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hi, i had 2 healthy children in my 40's, (44 and 46 to be exact.) i had miscarried 6 babies before then, so i was just so happy to be carrying a baby. we knew we were high risk too..... and did not need tests to confirm this.... so we did not do any tests.... not sure if this info is of any help, but all the very best.

Ana - posted on 02/06/2010

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yes yes yes I did it for my two babies I am 43 and my youngest is 3 and it just me me feel better all around. My uncle has down s. and he is 54 years old, my grandparents died whern he was 25 and it is a hard life for him and everyone else. When he need to go to the dentist they have to put him completely under and that is almost imposible and he has fainting spells. Having the amnio gave me peace of mind

Christina - posted on 02/06/2010

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Why do people have kids over 40????? or 44 I think that ur body can't take it. People should start to have kids when they are 28

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I'd agree; if you aren't going to abort, then just let it go by chance. Because you're a high risk mom, they'll have a pediatrician standing by to examine the baby at birth, and they'll be able to tell right away if there are any issues. Down syndrome is only one problem that increases with age at pregnancy, there are other problems that could also occur, and they can't be caught on an amniocentesis. Therefore, you won't be prepared for everything that could occur even if you have the amnio, and you're putting your pregnancy at risk by having the test.

Mel - posted on 02/06/2010

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hi, im not over the age that they say can be high risk, however my first child had a neural tube defect and we lost her as a result they wanted to do one when i fell pregnant with my second child, what i thought about was if it came back high risk would i abort?? my answer was no so therefor i was not willing to risk a possible healthy child for the test, knowing that i would love it either way, my best friend had the test and it came back high risk they went through hell making the decision and finally decided to keep the child lukily because the test was wrong the baby was totally normal, i guess there is for and against arguments but no one can make decisions for you unfortunatley its such a hard decision to make, good luck i hope all goes well for you

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Here are my thoughts on testing prenatally. Are you ready to abort, or kill your baby if you find out the baby does have down's? If not, what is the point of being tested? We personally could never abort, even if there was something wrong with the baby...like Down's, so we chose to never have any testing done.



You also have to remember, amnio's are very dangerous...is it worth the risk?



But...that is just us.

Elaine - posted on 02/06/2010

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I had exactly the same I was 34 at the time and i think mine was a 1 in 64 chance, what i done was weighed up the pros and cons (if i was to have a downs baby) and the decided to have the amnio which was not as bad as i though would be just very very worried if I had miscarried anyway the results were fine but in my opinion needed to have it done for peace of mind but each person is different if you could see yourself having a downs baby then i would not bother to have it done but if you could not then most deffinetly have it done. I hope this helps good luck.

Corinne - posted on 02/06/2010

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Hi Lorena,
I was pregnant with my first child at 43 years old. They had me worried with all of the tests they wanted to do. I even postponed a vacation to have the test done of the neck. The outcome of the test did not ease my mind but I was going to have the baby no matter what because I believe that she is a gift...I finally successfully put all of the negative thoughts out of my mind so that I would have a stress free pregnancy and that worked.
I was more scared of the amnio than the whole idea of giving birth...For my last month of pregnancy I was given a weekly stress test. They would have me sit with a heart monitor and after 10 minutes tell me I was doing great but just to make sure keep me on for the full 1/2 hour. Needless to say my first childbirth experience could not have been better. It was a lot easier than I had anticipated. My daughter is beautiful, healthy and smart. You have to decide what is best for you.

Katrina - posted on 02/05/2010

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yes i was pregnant with twins at 40 and had the test with no problems they had to put needle in twice as babies were not identical, i asked doctor how many he had done and how many miscarriges which he had none so it put my mind at ease and i have two healthy boys 2 1/2 now, good luck with your decision

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I was only 23 when I had my first child. It was only when she was a week old that we found out she had Down syndrome. That test not only increases the risk of miscarriage, it isn't always right. There was never anything "abnormal" detected with my daughter. Honestly, nothing can truly prepare you for ANY condition until you have actually lived it. And on a brighter note, my daughter just turned 3 and is reading, can count to 20 and backwards, plays piano, and is loved by all. She is truly a blessing and I would never change a single thing about her, DS or not! I am sure you will be fine :)

Jennifer - posted on 02/05/2010

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I know three mom's who were 1 in 11 chances of downs, 1 in 30 and one that was around where your risk is. I have to agree that if you are not going to abort regardless, then why worry about the risk of losing the pregnancy? I am 34 and have been trying to have our third for some time now without success and a few miscarriages. I would be to worried about a miscarriage if I became pregnant and stayed pregnant, and I have been told that it would make sense and be highly recommended to have the amnio - especially with having two children already - with the complications I have had etc and whether or not it would be fair to NOT know ahead of time to prepare. I still highly doubt - if I am blessed enough to get that third, that I would do the amnio. 1 in 200 still seems high to me after having so much trouble just getting pregnant in the first place.

Beth - posted on 02/05/2010

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I had a similar situation. I was pregnant with my 4th child at 38. We had been advised to have an amnio with our 3rd child because the AFP test showed we were at increased risk for having a Down's baby. We absolutely refused because we said we wouldn't abort it anyway. She was fine. With the pregnancy when I was 38, we received more pressure to have an amnio. The doctor knew we would not abort the baby, but said it would be better for the baby and I if they were prepared and would be immediately able to assist the baby if something was wrong. We decided I would have it and everything went fine. As I think someone else mentioned, we did have peace of mind too. With my 3rd child, we knew there was a small chance she would have Down's. Best wishes to you.

Caitlin - posted on 02/05/2010

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If your worried about miscarriage and it isn't going to change anything then I wouldn't do it.

Renee - posted on 02/05/2010

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I was 38 when I was pregnant with my 3rd child and did the bloodwork and ultrasound and my OB suggested an amnio. After talking it over with my hubby we refused as the outcome would have made no difference to us. I thought I would have been more stressed about not knowing for sure though for the rest of my pregnancy but I wasn't, I just enjoyed being pregnant and took it all in stride. We were blessed with a healthy baby girl 9 months ago. My opinion is, don't do it if you plan on continuing the pregnancy regardless. Why take the chance of miscarriage?

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If you are concerned for your baby, and you will love your child reguardless of them having down syndrome don't do it.

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I work with adults with learning disabilities and have a vast knowledge of downs syndrome and in my experience it depends on the approach of the parents in how the child is, parents that adopt the same approach as any normal child will often grow to be as rewarding as any child, parents that bring their child up to be different and treat them with kit gloves will experience the problems,
i spend hours and hours of 1 to 1 time with a 47 year old downs gentleman who is fantastic company and has the most broad line sense of humour ive ever met in anyone,
my advice is to enjoy your pregnancy and await the arrival of your beautiful baby and experience the wonders of a new baby whatever the outcome, would love to know how you get on, look forward to hearing what your having xxxx

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I was 28 at the time. Because I was spotting during the pregnancy it gave a fake positive which lead us to having the test. Now at 35 we have 2 beautiful children aged 3 boy and girl. if its meant to be then it will. Congrats on the new baby....

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I don't want to sway you one way or the other. I had that test when I was just about 14weeks. thought I was doing the right thing. Wish I had listened to my inner voice which said don't do it. We lost our son. If u wont abort then I personally wouldn't have the test. The risk alone isn't worth it but the financial cost is large too. I miss my son every day. Once again just listen to your inner voice. U have to live with yourself, no one else does. Good luck!!!! :0)

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Oh, by the way not all Down's are born to older women. My sister in law's was their first child. They were only 20, and 23 years old. They went on to have 4 other children who are not Down's.

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