Amy

Amy - posted on 11/01/2013 ( 14 moms have responded )

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I had 3 c-section and was told I can't have any more babies or I could die they cut 3 times in the same place. I was up set. Me and my husband just want one more baby. Can it happen one more time for us?

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Kimberlee - posted on 11/04/2013

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Hey, Amy! I hope you are doing well! I think that because you are a spiritual person, that praying about it FIRST to see if it is God's will, would be a way to sense if you are being led to have another one now or not. I have tried to share with my best friend that you need to feel that it is something you really need to move forward with, and then your body will work in harmony with your mind! Also, if You feel that you should go in a different direction that what your doctor is saying, then either express to him or her how important this is to you, or find another doctor! Amy, I believe that each of us have a God-given sense or intuition, we just have to learn to listen to it! There are tests to see what shape your uterus and ovairies are in. The doctors tested my hormone levels and thyroid as well to make sure everything was in order. Take inventory and stock of how you are really feeling deep down inside, apart from pressure from anyone or anything else. It is important to be ready not just physically, but mentally!

P.S. You can look me up on Facebook under Kimberlee Baxter and send me a friend request, and I will accept it. May God bless you, your husband and each of your three children!!. You sound like a very sweet person!

Sincerely,
Kimberlee Baxter

Amy - posted on 11/04/2013

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Wow I'm sorry you had to have all that pain! Don't be sorry you just wanted to get your story out there to other moms. I do thank you for letting me know. With our daughter she was head first and the DR had to do a c-section and she was 8 lbs 13 oz. she was born 2009. Our 2nd was a son and he was head first but the DR still wanted to do a c-section and I was at a 8 with him and he was 7 lbs 4 oz and was born 2010. Our 3 son was head first too and the DR still wanted to do a c-section and he was 10 lbs and he was born 2011. All of our kids are back to back I was pregnant 3 years in a roll. May be that's why the DR said know more babies or I could die. I don't know. because our last son was 10lbs. I didn't give my self time to heal it will be 3 years I haven't been pregnant yet may be some time next year we can try to have another baby. I'm goin to get checked and see if it's safe to have another baby. We just want one more little one. My GOD bless you and keep your family safe!!!!! Do you have Facebook? If you do can I be one of your friends. I don't know how to put moms on my circle?

Kimberlee - posted on 11/03/2013

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At the time I was getting ready to deliver my first child, I was in a church that taught or valued relying on one's faith in God over medical intervention! I had a birth plan set out originally that involved an all natural birth, with no epidural or drugs, etc. I was within a few months of reaching being labeled over-the-hill, or just too dxxn old to have children (my mother's eloquent and thoughtful words!). A.M.A., or Advanced Medical Age was written all over my file! I let my pregnancy go past the 40 week mark, because the March of Dimes organization had me scared to death that my daughter might be born with her lungs, etc. underdeveloped. Consequently, I was miserable for weeks and got no sleep while I was experiencing contractions about 10 minutes apart, but they would fizzle out by the time I got to the hospital later that morning (after being up all night!). My OBGYN said that they couldn't let me go past the maximum of 42 weeks, because they said it was neither good for me or the baby! When I finally arrived at the hospital to be induced, I informed the nurses about my "birth plan", which I am sure they laughed about privately! They were to give me nothing for pain and no epidural! After about 10-12 hours on the Pitocin (or Oxytocin) they had given me to induce labor, there was no dilation or any sign of progression that the baby was coming down the birth canal. I have had previous injuries to the spine/tailbone and figured something was wrong with the fit of her head with my pelvic region and/or birth canal. My original intention was NEVER to get a C-section, but, after praying about it, I decided that it just wasn't meant to be! I felt that if I tried to push her out that it could really do damage to her and cause unnecessary stress on her. Then, I realized how silly it was with all of the medical technological advances out there (which I believe the Creator has allowed for a purpose), that I would do things the hard way! I am not saying it was easy for me, because while it spared me from experiencing further labor pains, it took months to heal! The main thing, though for me, was to have a healthy baby girl, and she was just that!
On my second delivery with my son, I was nearly 43 years of age! Again, my OBGYN did not want me to go beyond the point of putting undue stress on me and the baby. They also did not want me to try and have a VBAC (Vaginal Birth after Caesarean), because of my age and previous c-section (could split open incision during labor pains and still have to have a c-section). Again, I decided to take their advice, and, actually had him at 38 and 1/2 weeks. They said that he would have been close to 10 pounds, but he peed twice and lost a little fluid right there in their arms! When they finally got him over to the scales, he weighed within an ounce of 9 pounds--a very healthy baby boy!
Again, after the second c-section, it took months to heal! Within a few short weeks after the birth of my second child, I began to experience very abnormal bleeding and became anemic. My periods were spaced out to about every other week and greatly interfered with every aspect of my life--the way I dressed, going out in public, etc. I was afraid of embarrassing accidents! My OBGYN examined me and told me due to pelvic prolapse, my bladder had dropped way down (pelvic prolapse). To make matters worse, an ultrasound revealed a thinned out place in the bladder, most likely due to scar tissue. I was not a good candidate for an oblation of the uterus (to help with the pain and heavy periods), and if my doctor had tried to go in through the cervix (which would also have to be removed this way), that the bladder could be accidentally cut and have a permanent hole in it--not good! He recommended that if I wanted the cervix to stay in place (to help prevent further problems with pelvic prolapse), that I would need what they call a "supra-cervixal" (above the cervix) partial hysterectomy, which involved another c-section incision! Consequently, Amy, I have had three c-sections! When they did the last one about two and half years ago, there was so much scar tissue, that my OBGYN had to take out the ovaries and the bladder and scrape a lot of scar tissue from them (plus there was inflammation in the ovaries). He felt that this would be enough to help prevent future problems, and so he left the ovaries in and did not permanently remove them (to help prevent the hastening of menopause). Now, for those of you, without experiencing what I have or Amy or others have had to, please do not jump to any conclusions that most all, if not all, really want c-sections! That is simply just not the truth! Speaking of the truth, I once felt exactly like you until as fate would have it...I had to walk down a different path! Sorry, my story is so long, but I just wanted to let Amy and others who have gone through similar experiences, know that "they are not alone!"

Amy - posted on 11/02/2013

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O wow that's cool to hear. I never new two diff babies being the same lbs in to diff worlds. Ya that's what our family DR told us too. I hope you are right about me helling because we juse want one more baby and we are done. Our last boy is two now and I haven't had any babies yet. May be wait one more year and get checked out and see if it's safe to have another baby. They would have to keep a eye on me because I have dieabeits and I had it in the middle with our first boy and had it with our 2nd boy to. So if I can have one more baby they would have to keep a really close eye on me. Thank you for letting me know what you know about my ? I hope I wasn't any trouble to you. I hope you get your wish too. About your baby. Good luck and GOD bless you and your family. Amy :~}

Michelle - posted on 11/02/2013

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I actually know a lady who had 2 c-sections because she didn't want her vagina all stretched! Yes her exact words.
Back on topic though: Amy I think you should give yourself more time to heal. Having all your children a year apart isn't the best when having c-sections.

Amie - posted on 11/02/2013

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No I didn't think you were. I do know a few people who have pushed and pushed and then had to have a c-section because they couldn't get them out. I'm just glad I was given other reasons and didn't have to do that!

Jodi - posted on 11/02/2013

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Oh, I wasn't targeting you in particular - I was just saying that there seems to be a general consensus that big babies = c-section. Which is why the c-section rate is so high. Personally, I just don't get it.

Amie - posted on 11/02/2013

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It actually wasn't the only reason in my case. I had gestational diabetes with my first and the babies of gestational diabetic mothers tend to have broader shoulders and therefore could get stuck in the birth canal easier. That with the size was why I had my first c-section. When I was pregnant with my second and had my exam, my nurse practitioner said there was no way I would have been able to give birth naturally anyway with my pelvic bone being as low as it in. And then with my third, I was in hard labor for 12 hours and only dilated 1 centimeter, so I'm pretty sure there would have been no way I could have done a natural birth in any of the situations. I totally agree, though. They have been getting out of hand with c-sections. They have been getting better with it in the last 10 years or so and only doing a c-section when they see medically fit. I know for a while they were just allowing people to schedule c-sections. That's actually why I had to be in hard labor for 12 hours to dilate. They will not perform a c-section if you are less than 39 weeks and not in active labor. I was 38 weeks and 6 days and I had to dilate before they could say okay.

Jodi - posted on 11/02/2013

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I don't understand why they are giving c-sections for babies of birth weights this low. That's actually not that big. Using that as an excuse that it needs to be a c-section is a cop out. Women give natural birth to babies this size and bigger all the time. It's one thing to say "I had to have a c-section because my baby was 9lb" and quite another to say "I had to have a c-section because my baby was to large for my pelvis". No-one has to have a c-section because of the size of a baby (especially if it is under 9lb). They have to have a c-section because of their capacity to be able to birth that baby.

Not to mention that estimated birth weights are not terribly accurate, so if I had a doctor that was using that as the pure reason for a c-section, I would honestly questions the credentials.

Amie - posted on 11/02/2013

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Haha! My first, son, was 8 lbs 13 oz! That's why I had to have the c-section. Those are really close together, mine are 20 1/2 months and 2 years apart. Maybe give yourself a little extra recovery time and then it might be easier on your body. It does take a long time for a full recovery. I know around 6 months I still feel pulling on the incision. That may be a huge factor in this...since they are so close together it was probably much harder on your uterus. I hope you are able to have your 4th! We want the same, so I'm hoping the same for us!

Amy - posted on 11/02/2013

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That you so much for sharing your story with me. It did help. When I do want to try to have another one. I am going to get checked out to see if it is safe to have another baby. I do think the reason is why the DR said that is cause I had 3 c-section back to back. All 3 of our kids are a year apart. My first daughter was 8 lbs 13 oz. my 2nd boy was 7 lbs 4 oz and my last boy was 10 lbs.

Amie - posted on 11/02/2013

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I have also have had 3 c-sections, but when I was pregnant with my 2nd they told me that they would be able to tell by looking at my uterus when I could only handle one more. I'm assuming they said that based on what they saw while doing the c-section. If they are going by an average, I was initially told most women can have 3, then you very well may be able to handle another. I would discuss this with the doctor that did your c-section and find out why this was said.

Amy - posted on 11/02/2013

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Thank u for letting me know. If we can't have one more we are done but if we can we will love it. I have always wanted 4 kids cause my mom and dad had For kids and I love kids. My husband wasn't more but I know that can't happen. I wish I could give him more but that's not what GOD wants I guess.

Jodi - posted on 11/02/2013

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Well, it can potentially be a danger to you and your baby, but can it happen one more time? Yes, for some it can. It really depends on the circumstances. You could consider seeking a second opinion based on your personal circumstances. Basically, it comes down to there being an increased risk each time you have a c-section based on a number of factors. Having further c-sections beyond three comes with increased risk, and should be something you consider carefully in discussion with your doctor (as opposed to a bunch of women on the internet telling you to just go for it because they were okay after four).

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