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Please, please try not to be offended by this topic. I do not mean to insult the religious choices of anyone else and firmly believe in religious freedom.
I am an agnostic. I was not raised with any kind of organized religion. When my husband and I got married, I agreed to raise our children in his faith, which is Catholic. What I quickly realized was that he was not a practicing Catholic; it was more about not wanting to hurt his parents. My children are now 5 and 7 years and are asking questions that I think some kind of organized spiritual discussion could help, but if Catholicism is not important to my husband, I find I can't really get on board. I cannot and will not allow my children to be taught that to love someone of the same sex or for a husband and wife to plan the size of their family is sinful. And I don't and will never believe that one must not only accept Jesus as the savior but attend a specific Christian church in order to be accepted into Heaven (if one exists). I know the children's mass at the Catholic Church will not discuss these things at this age, but I feel like it's opening the door.
But the idea of spiritual discussion, especially now that my children are so inquisitive, sounds like a good one. While I don't believe in a deity, I want my children to be introduced to the idea and allow them to make their own decisions. There is a Unitarian church not far from me and I would like to go there and take my kids. What I'm worried about are my in-laws. They are very strict, devout, practicing Catholics. I've seen their nieces and nephews talked about in whispered voices if they went to a church other than the Catholic Church. I fear that they will not only be hurt, but genuinely believe they will not get to see their grandchildren in the afterlife. While I don't agree, I don't want to hurt them in this way either.
So my question is, do I take my children to the Unitarian Church and take the heat from my in-laws, take them to the Catholic Church and be sure to instill in them the strength to question everything they're taught or do I avoid it altogether and fake a headache every Sunday when my children are asking to go to church (this third option is my husband's suggestion).
Thank you for any feedback.