an overseas worker mom needs advice

Sheng - posted on 10/23/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )

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i am working overseas and im a single mom. i have a 10 yr old son and hes not following my rules. he leave my parents house and hes not talking to me right now.. the problem is they didnt taking care of him and they are very irresponsable with my son. they letting him to do want he want and have money in his hands always. my mom took him there for 100 times to bring back home and he just making promises to me but after a days hes doin the same thing.. please anyone can help me to solve this!! thanks in advance

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Michelle - posted on 10/23/2015

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Why do you expect him to follow your rules when you aren't around? He is living in your parents home so they set the rules. You can ask them to have certain rules for him but at the end of the day, you aren't there and they are raising him.
If you want a solution, you'll either have to move back home or have your son with you. You can't parent from afar. Sorry if it's not what you want to hear.

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Michelle - posted on 10/26/2015

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I understand why you are working overseas but you can't dictate what happens where he is living while you aren't there.
Like Raye said, did you file for child support through the courts? Just because his Father has a new family doesn't mean he doesn't have to help raise his other child/ren.

Raye - posted on 10/26/2015

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Did you file for child support from the father? You can't expect him to just hand over money if you don't go to court for it.

Sheng - posted on 10/26/2015

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i know its not sounds good but the reason why i leave them because im raising him alone financially my ex husband already have his new family and didnt even care to give me even a cent.. hes now living in my parents in law house and dont want to focus in his school.. it is very hard to go back home because the salary im having here is triple compared of what ill have there..things are very complicated when u are a single mom.. what i only want is what is good in their future..

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