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My boyfriend and the child of his mother have 50/50 custody. At first we were trying for full but she came to agreement where we'd do 50/50. As I've said in a precious post I love my stepson but since we have 50/50 custody I feel like my boyfriend and I should have alone time. I wanted full custody they chose not to do it. Not that I wanted to be mom or keep him mom away from him, but because she used him as leverage. Now, one full week we have him the next week she has him. However, her job is a Sunday-Thursday 3rd shift. My job I work 2nd shift but Monday and Tuesday I work 3rd shift then a double 6pm-7am. So my boyfriend and I don't see eachother for 24 hours at one point in the week. He's gone all morning due to work. Recently graduated but before a month ago he was gone from 7:30am-10:00pm so we never really seen eachother. So as I was saying now we get my stepson everyday on our week which I love my time with him then we get him on her weeks at 9:30pm-7:30am. Really cuts into my boyfriend and I's quality time. By time I get home from work at 11 he's exhausted from work and exhausted from his son so he's half asleep spending time with me for an hour. And if he's fully awake complains he needs to go to sleep. Like today for example I work 11pm-7am and he usually has time to come home and take a nap before he gets his son on this week. His mother blew the engine in her car so my boyfriend is picking him up and dropping him off on her week. So we didn't have any time to us. I know when you have kids you sacrifice your "me" time. I fully understand that. That's why I refuse to have children of my own, because I'm not ready to give me up yet. However since we have joint custody we should be able to have time right? Once again this is doing extra things for his child's mother and neglecting me... I don't know what to do anymore.