Angry 5 Year Old

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I am a step "mother" to 5 year old twin girls. The reason mother is in quotes is because I am not married to their father, yet we have been together for 3 years now and we have been raising his girls. The girls have supervised visitation twice a week with their bio mother and the following day one of the girls is often extremely angry with me, to the point of yelling and throwing things at me. We normally have a good relationship but lately she has been, more or less, hateful towards me and tells me that she only likes her dad. Everyone I have talked to says it's just her age or that she is tired because they are now in Kindergarten. As she has gotten older she has been more angry and it's really prominent after she spends time with her bio mother. I'm at a loss and I don't know what to do....please provide any advice. Thank you.


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 11/01/2013




Dad needs to get both of them into some counseling. They're 5, they've had mixed up lives for at least the last 3 years, if not more...

They need help learning how to handle their lives, since they are children of a split relationship. They need a neutral therapist that will help them towards learning to handle the situation.

Probably some of it is age, some of it is degree of fatigue, but some of it is also that those girls feel guilt for you being around. Most likely mom says some nasty stuff while the girls are there, and you are dealing with the repercussions of that. They want their mom to love them, and know that you do, and that mixes them up.

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