Debi - posted on 03/06/2015 ( 10 moms have responded )
Please, I need advice. My ex got a promotion and accepted a job in NJ, which moves him (and his wife and stepson) out of state and away from my daughter (16). He told me, however, that my daughter wants to move with him, and I need to "listen to what she wants." I have primary custody, so he cannot just take her. My daughter is having wild teenage behavior, from being angry one minute, to loving me the next, to hating me the minute after, to being sweet all over again. Her hormones are raging and she's all over the page. I've consulted a counselor who told me her behavior is normal, but it's tearing me apart and not easy to deal with. Now, she is angry that I told her I'm against her moving to NJ. In fact, her father is about to be served with a petition to modify our parenting plan, which is going to cause an uproar...possibly a hearing where a judge makes the final decision. Her dad is filling her head with the excitement of living close to New York and Broadway. Seemingly, moving to NJ sounds great for a child who wants to be in theater (she currently attends a performing arts high school) to be close to New York; however, the school her father proposes does not offer a performing arts program. He’s also told her that she can go on auditions and that there is a program where she can intern on Broadway. I looked into his claims and the internship (when she's eligible) is a 1-hour plus drive. In addition, candidates must be a senior in high school (she’s a sophomore) or college students to quality, and must be accepted to the program after writing an essay. I am sick over the thought of going to court and possibly losing her…but I feel I’m losing her anyway because she is so angry. I’m not sure what my question is, but I am reaching out for advice/help. I am happy to answer questions and provide more detail, if interested.