Charmaine - posted on 10/10/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




hi : my baby is now 5 months old. does my ex partner have any right on seeing her. he left me 3 weeks before my due date and werent at the birth like planned. he still dudnt come to see my daughter until she was 3 weeks old.... he doesnt pay for his child and doesnt make an effort for us. and he used to get everyone to lie for him so he didnt have to meet me. he wastes his money on cannabis and doesnt give a penny for my daughter. i dont want my daughter near him or his family. as they all smoke cannabis in the house, my ex partners mum drinks, does cocaine, and smokes cannabis with her two sons ( my ex and his brother) he keeps leaving me but he never bothers with my daughter. ive given him 6 chances in the last 5 months to be a dad. and always fails because hes too worried about his mates and smoking cannabis and bascially just wants to do what he wants to do and not be a dad and hes been in and out of her life. what should i do? should i keep him away from her, for own protection as she is the only one who's going to get hurt in this. i think she is better off without him. plus does he have any rights? im scared hes going to threaten me with court


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Dove - posted on 10/10/2012




Document everything and get a lawyer. He is her father and has every right to see her and she has every right to be allowed to develop a relationship with him that is HERS. If you can prove he is a danger to her then you may be able to have him get supervised access only. If he does take you to court he WILL get visitations, so start and keep documenting EVERYTHING.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/10/2012




You can call it pot ;) He sounds like a dead beat, but yes still has rights. My suggestion would be to seek legal aid on what options you have. Also, this could jump start child support for you.

Jodi - posted on 10/10/2012




Yes, he has rights, and he could take you to court for access if you deny him access. You need to document everything so that if he does decide to take you to court, then at least you have some evidence of his past behaviour. Keep a diary.

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