anxiety

Megan - posted on 01/25/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I am a stay at home mom and i have anxiety. My husband says that I need to get out more but it is hard for me to because i like being around people but only for a short amount of time and my long time friend and i just recently stop talking and now i dont have anyone that i cn vent to that understands of how i feel and hangout with can anyone help?

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Megan - posted on 01/25/2016

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I do feel a little guilty about it, it just feels like I am abandoning him but I am not. Guess it's just first time mom thing and if I be gone more than an hour my husband calls to see when I am getting home. And if I do have alone time my husband goes where is my alone time? And I am like you go to work and when you ask for it I will give you alone time.

Raye - posted on 01/25/2016

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You can't feel guilty that you need space. Your son may have a little separation anxiety because he's used to you being there, but it would actually do him good to learn that when you "disappear" you will come back. If you can get into a routine, then he will know when to expect you gone and back, and that would help him cope. Dad should be able to handle the kid for an hour or so to give you some time. It probably would be easier on you and the child if you were out of the house, so you wouldn't hear the tantrum and feel guilty and your son wouldn't keep trying to get to wherever you are in the house.

Megan - posted on 01/25/2016

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i do want to get out more but i like do do both and my husband is what you call a social butterfly and for me i am the opposite like you will find me in the corner and with me having a 5 year old that is a complete mommy's boy and its hard to find time for myself if he is that way and when i ask my husband to watch our kid my 5 year old runs after me in 5 seconds so its hard.

Raye - posted on 01/25/2016

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Your husband says you need to get out more... but do YOU want to get out more? Or do you want some quiet time at home? I also don't like crowds, and I only have had a few real friends (which I don't talk to regularly). If you want to get out, maybe you can find a support group, or start taking a class of some kind to get introduced to people with similar interests. Going to the gym can get you out of the house, relieve stress and exercise gives a natural high to make you feel better, all without having to talk to a bunch of people. Maybe your husband can watch the child while you take an hour to read, or take a bubble bath, or just take time to relax at home.

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