Dot - posted on 12/14/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )
I am a married 35-year old mother of a 3 and a half year old. It was not until recently that I began to feel interested in adding another child to our family, but I just can't seem bring myself to go through pregnancy, countless appointments, childbirth, recovering from birth, and newborn again! Does anyone else feel this way? I actually had a pretty uncomplicated pregnancy and childbirth and easy baby, so can't I just leave it as that and enjoy my one successful experience? Does every mother feel ridiculous pressure to have more than one child? With the first, I was naive to all that is really involved, but now that I have been through it, I know the intensity and difficulties ... and I can't get over it and I haven't forgotten it. Anytime I think about having another baby, I have flashbacks to the fatigue and my poor painful vagina (sorry, but its true). How do other mothers forget about this and have multiple children? I am the oldest of 5 and I can appreciate the importance of a sibling ... but time has not made me forget. If my husband could carry and birth the baby, I think I would be ready for a second child. And I am actually very interested in adoption, but it also seems like a very lengthy and expensive process with potential risks and downsides.