Anxiety around bedtime

Jennifer - posted on 03/02/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 5. She does not do well falling asleep alone or staying asleep the entire night. She co-slept with my husband and I until age 3 (same as our 2 older children who transitioned well) but that is no longer an option due to several reasons. We have been struggling the past two years. I am looking for ideas and support to give my daughter confidence and rhythm/routine around bedtime. I need UNobvious ideas because I have tried the most obvious ideas (bath, stories, stuffed animals, songs). I also notice she has tendenicies towards anxiety, needing to know the plans for the next day, and being inflexible around plans. I want a well rested, confiant sleeper who doesn't end up in our bed in the wee hours. And to rid her around non-specific night time fears. Thanks!

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Naomi - posted on 03/03/2011

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I'm not sure how much help I could be with everything. A friend of mine says he can get his youngest to sleep by cuddling her for 15 minutes, but she doesn't wake up in the middle of the night.



I've read that you can help with fear of the dark/monsters by giving kids a "magic" flashlight that scares away things. Having them practice in a dark room during the day helps to give them confidence that it works at night.



I'm not sure how to help with the cold thing. To me, it seems like she really just wants a person to snuggle with while she sleeps. I would suggest an electric blanket if she doesn't flail around, but if she's waking up and lonely, that won't help.



I'm sorry I can't be more help :( Hopefully someone else will be able to help with the loneliness stuff.

Jennifer - posted on 03/02/2011

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Her brothers are 9 and 13 and have a later bedtime than she does. She is afraid of "everything". The dark, being alone. And she says she gets cold dispite warm PJ's bankets and an extra space heater as well

Naomi - posted on 03/02/2011

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Are her siblings young enough for her to sleep with one of them? Or at least in the same room?
Has she said exactly what she's afraid of? There are different things you can do for different fears.

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