any advice??

Isabella - posted on 12/04/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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im 15 and pregnant! my parents do know... but the problem iam haveing is with my babys father. he says he wants to be involved but since i got pregnant we have talked once i have talk to his mom more than him it seems like she wants this more than him... im about to have a baby with a guy i bayley know help me please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Holly - posted on 12/05/2012

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wow perhaps he is afraid he could go to jail for statutory rape... because regardless of if you consented, that is illegal



and so you know YOU Are the one that said you barely know him....

Holly - posted on 12/04/2012

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well, seeing as though you are 15, i am guessing this guy is not much older. he probably sees his future... fighting with a mother over child support and visitation rights. not having a life anymore because he has to work 2 jobs just to keep up with child support and be able to afford to keep himself off of the streets, college forget about it, that's ok for moms, because they have jobs, govt assistance and child support. he probably doesn't want to be permanently tied to you. honestly you need to spread the word to your friends to quit spreading your legs at such a young age, you have a life time ahead of you, and many years for adult things, no need to rush into adult things as a child.

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Jacinta - posted on 12/05/2012

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Holly I couldn't have Said it better myself.



Love no disrespect but you are a child having a hold how on earth are you going to cope.Money wise,Emotionally wise,time wise how? How are you going to provide for your family,go to school and balance it all out?



So essentially this guy is a rapist? So you are dating him in 7th grade when you were what 13 and he was 19 that's a big he difference that's wrong.Either way he has taken advantage of you,he clearly doesn't want to be apart.How does he intend to provide for you when his parents still provide for him?



Your life isn't over no,but you can kiss the going out partying an doin all of what your friends will be soing goodbye you'll be at home changing poopy Nappys and they'll be out having fun.



Your baby's going to be 5 years old before your even legally an adult! I had my twins when I was 24 I had a healthy stable marriage I had a stable income a stable home and still I struggled as did my partner! motherhood isn't all fun! It's stress and time and patients!



It's a lot to deal with and I honestly wish you good luck because love you will need it.You shouldn't have lost your virginity to someone you claimed to hardly know who is 6 years older than you.you may think he's going to be there and help that he's the perfect father but are you still goin to think that when your up at 5 o'clock listening to a screaming child who just won't settle in tears because it feels like you haven't slept for a month?

Isabella - posted on 12/05/2012

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hes 21 i dont think hes in the mind set of a teen boy... he already works too jobs and his parents support him pretty well... and he is in collage so... i dont think hes worried about that and just because you have a baby at a young age dose not mean your life is over and as far as it goes for "spreading my legs" i dident just spread my legs for him he was the frist guy i was ever with and have been with him since 7th grade... so

Jacinta - posted on 12/04/2012

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You are both young,if he is as young as you he doesn't know what he wants he is probably scared he is about to be fully responsible for another human being that he created that's a lot for any man or women to handle let alone one as young as 15.



Sit down and talk to him tell him there is no such thing as a part time daddy he is either in it for the long run or not in it at all,try not to scare him but show him your serious.You two are children having a child it's going to be a million times harder than say if you were 25 with a stable income a home of your own and if you two actually took the time to et to know each other first.



I have nothing but respect for young parents because I know how hard I a 26 year old ind it raising my two boys so I can imagine how much harder it must be to be so young with a baby but you can't force him to be involved.give him the choice and what ever he decides go with it because this can't be a normal teenage in off relationship your going to have a hold that needs everything done for it it needs a stable home and stable happy parents wether they r together or apart.Good luck

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