Jessica - posted on 05/31/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
I am new to the forum and I really need some advice to my life. Please help. I got married one year ago and my husband has two daughters living with us. One is 25 and the other is a teenager. I do love my husband a lot and appreciate our relationship. However, sometimes I feel it is impossible to get along with the 25 yr SD.
The 25 yr SD has depression and has been taking medicines. I really do not know how does that mess up her willings or her life. She does not do anything, absolutely nothing, in helping with the housework expect her own laundry. She stay up over night while sleep during the day and often invites friends to our house after 12:00am, which disturbs our sleep. She and her bf both have drug problem, and sometimes smoke weeds in the house, inside their room though. She can not keep a job for long because she is always late for work or she quits her job impulsively, and even she had a job, her money is often gone through drinking in the bar, by both her and her bf. I feel like she is a person totally from different world to mine. The issue is that her dad does not want to suggest what she do or not due to her depression and, mostly, due to her agressive bio mom. Once I tried to communicate with the SD hoping that she can be a little more helpful to the housework because we have a five people family (her bf lives with us too) and many dogs, and that my husband and I both have to work. My hope inside was that may be at least she can help to do the dishes everyday. I swear I did not say anything strong to her or be too serious. She twisted my words into that we think she is a burden and told her bio-mom immediately about it. Then that night her mom called and cursed us almost the whole night in that I should not have depressed her. I feel like I can really not manage to coinhabit with her in that it feels like walking on the glass, not only because of her agressive bio-mom but also that I do not know what might put her down. I feel I will be depressed as time goes by. Can anyone give a piece of advice on how to sort this out? Please?