Lori - posted on 11/16/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
Ladies, Can you please offer any advice on dealing with an insecure husband? He is 47 years old and looks older I am in my mid 30's and look younger. He has made me an emotional wreck. I got my degree in from college roughly 12 years ago, got married to him, had a child. Stayed-at-home the last 10 years. Sorry for the poor grammar, I am writing in tangents. He doesn't like me looking at other men, looking at people in restaurants at all, no people watching. He doesn't like me having a life unless he knows all about it. I've had a couple jobs here and there that could have been good. But, he would make comments like they don't treat you right, they don't pay you enough, that guy is a womanizer. This and that. He is demeaning. He will say "your whole life you've made major mistakes" "you can't make decisions" "you screw up all the time." Mind you our daughter is a straight A student, gifted and talented, house always crystal clean, good food on the table, bills paid, everything organized. I said to him "You aren't perfect, you make mistakes in life too." He will say "No, I try not to make mistakes and yes I try to be perfect." It's like dealing with a 10 year old. I will say "Wow, there is a XYZ college football game today, let's go." He'll say "No, there isn't they are done playing the season is over." Even though I attended XYZ flipping college and know they have a damn game that day....it's on the flipping schedule. He'll never admit to being wrong, ever. Basically, he's a control freak ass. That thinks by controlling and demeaning that is love. I'm tired of it. I don't want to lose the house, our daughter, start over in my mid 30's. Any advice. Please be HONEST and PULL NO PUNCHES. Let me have it ladies. What am I doing wrong? He makes me doubt myself, sexually I don't work anymore, and I feel like I can't effing boil water right anymore. He also thinks that women can be demeaned constantly and then work sexually, sorry at least I don't work that way. Thanks!