Any else have very difficult, very fussy babies??

Erinn - posted on 04/12/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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When my son was a baby he was like the easiest baby you could have, totally laid back and didn't cry very often (unless he REALLY needed something!!) Our daughter, on the other hand is the TOTAL opposite!! Usually when she's not eating (and thats most of the time) she's crying. She's 5 months old and although she's been actually smiling now, she still cries a lot! She seems to be content most of the time when she's being held, but put her down and she screams, she may only be 5 months old, but she already seems high maintenance!! I was wondering if anyone else has a baby like mine?? I love her to death and she is absolutely beautiful, just a HUGE handful! I also have a 3 year old son so it makes it a little more challenging to hold her as much as she needs to be held! Maybe I just got very spoiled with how great my son was. Anyone else have a baby that HAS to be held and fed all the time? I could use some support and words of wisdom.... thanks!

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Kerry - posted on 04/12/2009

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My daughter started speration anxiety when she was 3 mnths, so she cried everytime i left. Does your daughter ahve a special thng she likes, you can give her that and try to distract her so you can walk away. My suggestion is to put her down next to you in something and interact with her and start working yourself awayf rom her so she stills sees you but tries to sooth herself.That is the main thing I think she needs to learn to sooth herslef. Another suggestion is to put her somewhere safe for example a playpen give her something to look and reach for and walk away for a couple of minutes, if she cries come back but don't pick her up and try to sooth her then walk awaya gin for a couple of minutes and then pick her up if she cries again. Just kepp trying that, she will learn that you are there and trust that eventually. I hope this helps. Good Luck

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Artemis - posted on 02/28/2016

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For such babies, babies magic tea can be a great remedy to soothe them. This is an herbal formula that soothes newborns from all tummy issues.

Dorothy - posted on 04/12/2009

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My first child was like that and i was a new mom and had no clue what to do. But then i thought that maybe if i payed attention to my baby without picking her up it may show her that i can be close and still not have to hold her and i would slowly take the distance a little further away day by day. Also with great hardship i just made sure she was fed, dry , safe and made sure there was nothing wrong with her (health wise )and let her cry. She is a very strong willed child and i love her for it but one can only do so much. She is now 10 and we have a great relationship and shes a great girl.

Kelly - posted on 04/12/2009

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About all I can tell you is, be patient, it does get better! My youngest was just like this, almost drove me insane-though I absolutely adore her. Looking back, the only two specific reasons I can see to possibly explain how fussy she was, were that she was breasfed until 15 months, and I didn't give her any food until 5 1/2 months. After she started eating food, she got a little bit happier. She never took a bottle, so I never knew how much milk she was getting, and I actually think (in hindsight) that she may not have been satisfied with just the breastmilk. Also, she had excema (sp?) from the time she was very small (started before her 4 month checkup), and she may have suffered a lot of discomfort from that. The ironic thing is the doctor blamed it on possible food allergies, even though she was strictly on breastmilk! Both my girls are much more high maintenance than my boys, so that may be typical. Even though they are more clingy and demanding in some ways, in many ways their need to be close to me is a joy and gives us a special bond. I have the advantage of older siblings to give extra attention to my little ones, whereas your son is still young enough to want plenty of attention himself. Just try to look at the big picture and know that all the attention you give her brings you a closer relationship in the future. That is just my experience and opinions; you will probably get plenty of moms posting telling you that you are spoiling her and you should just let her cry it out. I understand where you are though, and how difficult that can be with babies that are absolutely determined to be held. One last thing, my youngest is now three, and she went thru a long spell (and she still will do this some) of telling me, "Mommy I want you" and "Mommy I need you" all the time. Now that might get tiresome to some, but isn't that really what most kids feel, but just perhaps don't express as effectively? Something to think about...good luck!!! Hang in there!

Ashlie - posted on 04/12/2009

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Oh yea her doctor told me "Kennedy has to learn to soothe herself"..and that was at 3 months.

Ashlie - posted on 04/12/2009

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Hi I don't know if I could give you any words of wisdom but I'd love to reply to this. My daughter is 13 months now(THank GOD!). Everyone keep telling me stop saying I'm glad she's bigger now because I'm going to miss those "Lil Baby Dayz"; LOL. It seems like as soon as my baby was born she was in TOTAL control of everything..well ME actually. I was her B***h, (inside joke). She did NOT fall asleep UNLESS she was in my arms..that really made everything worse on my behalf because I could never put her down and I could never get my Mom or Sister to watch her for me unless I really need them to. She cried all day and everyday..but was a VERY happy baby as well. She always awakened me with a smile every morning! Ppl in my family and her Father family as well would tell me as long as she's fed, clean and entertained she should be okay for awhile. They told me to let her cry and I would try it but it seem like that was not helping and it just made her scream louder and longer. As soon as I would lay her down for a nap she would open her eyes and start screaming. She never liked her swing..I was her new swing. We always stocked up on pacifiers (I call them MY "Life Savers"--NO JOKE) in all colors; same brand (Nam). But trust! You gain extremelyalot of patients from this if you never had any before. My sister tell me everyday that I'm a strong individual because I dealt wit it very well. I've became frustrated at times but I made it out alive. Oh and hate to tell you it won't be over until she's about almost 10 months. Around that time everything should be better for you unless you practice letting her cry and "they say" (PEOPLE) it's better for their lungs anyway.

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