Leigh - posted on 01/25/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )
I just got married a little less than a year ago and I am having a horrible issue with my step daughter. She has some really good qualities but the bad qualities make it hard for me to connect with her. She is 11 and is probably the most mature 11 year old I have met. She has a fowl mouth on her. When she is mad at my boys she'll say things like "Go die in a hole" or "shut up or I will shoot you in the head with a gun." or "I will smuther you while you are sleeping." She just has a very nasty disposition. I am scared to bring her around any of my family because my parents, siblings, aunts and uncles are very conservative people and I am worried that she will make a fool out of herself or out of me. I can have a really good time with her and laugh talk with her for hours, but that does not happen often. I normally try to avoid her as much as possibly. I have a very hard time disciplining children that are not mine but yesterday I got so angry that I went off on her. I am so tired of it. My husband will take my side while she is around but then when she is not around he things I am out casting her. I have a several nieces and nephews and a lot of friends that have children as well and I have never in my life heard a child talk the way she does. Please give me helpful advice. Maybe there are others out there that have been in the same situation. I want to be close with her and have a good relationship with her like I do with her sister, but I cannot allow a child to come into my house and act as if she rules the roost.